• cally [he/they]@pawb.social
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    5 months ago

    even though inferior men seem to have no problem doing so

    there’s his problem. thinking of others as inferior (and of yourself as “superior”) is egocentric.

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        You’re gonna yo-yo for another 6 years but every swing will be lower than the last, until you finally hit your mid-30s and adopt an “ah fuckit” approach to life.

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    The hardest thing to change for 4channers is losing the right wing, authoritarian, hierarchy stuff. Just treat others like asexual, innocent, nice people and they will treat you the same. The problem with 4 chan and most online forums is that the hormone levels behind the keyboard are through the roof and they just want sex. They don’t care about actually fixing or changing themselves - they want to do the minimum required to get laid.

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      I get it. I was young once, and my lizard brain did all the driving. I didn’t pull my head out of my ass until 27, and the pop could be heard around the globe. That actually coincides with the last cognitive development stage, which happens around 26-27. Life before then seems so unbelievably cringeworthy.

      The thing, though is that men in general do not bond or mentor each other, generally, or at the very least, we don’t surround ourselves with people who we can learn from, because funni.

      Men need to work on helping each other grow. Memes are great. Booze is fun. However, there should be something deeper than context based friendships, and that all starts with being comfortable talking and being somewhat vulnerable with each other, and honest with ourselves about what we are feeling internally.

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        I would argue that “men don’t bond” if they were raised on the alpha male bullshit you escaped from on the internet. I met my best friend in high school, we went to college together, and then he moved across the country over 10 years ago. We’re both in our early thirties now. But we chat still nearly every weekend, talk about life, boost each other’s spirits, chat politics, hopes, dreams, regrets, give each other advice based on our individual experiences. We never were part of the “kick each other in the balls = friendship” crowd, and while it’s certainly there, I think that saying generally men all feel that way is a bit disingenuous

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        the last cognitive development stage, which happens around 26-27.

        Wait, what? I don’t think I got the memo on that one. This isn’t some “manosphere” thing, is it?

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      Just treat others like asexual, innocent, nice people

      Okay, but what about REAL people? Not everyone can, or even wants to, live in a fantasy land like you do where bad actors can run roughshod over everybody as long as they put on an asexual, innocent, nice face.

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      😂 political beliefs have nothing to do with this. If you’re a creep and have the personality of a roll of duct tape you probably won’t attract anybody. Political affiliation or religion has zero to do with any of it. These people are just mental midgets.

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      Yeah the guy could work in not viewing success in a vagina access based way. That would help hus personality for sure.

      • When in that state, it’s immensely difficult to understand what exactly is going wrong, let alone fix it. I still remember being an awkward idiot kid confused about my isolation, flailing at shadows and endlessly making a nuisance of myself by reveling in the discomfort my presence bred. Misery one way glass. Hope anon finds someone to pass him notes.

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    Always going on about height 🙄

    Yes, there are some women who will outright say no due to height, but don’t act holier than thou like you don’t have any physical preferences that you would choose if given the option.

    It’s also not the dealbreaker they think it is most of the time, it’s just cope so they can blame something out of their control and say that it’s women’s fault for being shallow.

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      Well it is lying, until you change yourself. It is very hard work and takes years of focus and therapy, or a few extremely traumatic events or both.