The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Emotional-Attempt687 on 2024-06-11 00:55:05.

AITA for refusing to allow extended family stay with me because I felt I was unfairly treated by them in the past?

I am close with my family and we often vacationed/visited extended family together even as grown adults. Of 5 siblings, me and my younger sister were both married. Each time we traveled to visit family out of town, my sister and her husband would be provided with a bedroom, while my husband and I were given common areas to sleep.

This wasn’t due to seniority of age or relationship length. I was married one year prior to my sister as well as was in a relationship with my husband for several years longer than she was with her husband.

This happened approximately 10 times, not all with the same family but with various vacations. Fast forward to today, the extended family that put me in a common room every time I visited is coming in to town and needs a place to stay. I said since my younger sister was always so kindly accommodated by this family member, she should return the favor and let the extended family stay with her.

All my sisters are saying I’m being an asshole to not make a sacrifice to host, and insane to care where I slept and that my little sister wasn’t given special treatment and I need to get over it. The only reason I’ve ever been given (beyond “I don’t remember”) is that no one liked my sisters husband and they wanted him to stay in a room where they didn’t have to hangout with him.

To clarify, my younger sister now has five kids and all my siblings think it would be “easier on everyone” if I let the extended family stay at my house and in my bedroom and I just couch surf at my sisters while the extended family was in town.

I am admittedly against this because I resent this family member for how she treated me like I was less important or deserving of privacy and also I don’t want to give up my house for 2 weeks especially because I work remote 2 days a week. But mostly it’s about the past if I’m being honest. AITA?