Currently living in AUS/NZ with SO. We’re going to be trying for a kid soon, but we have no support network here and no family to help out. I think we should move back to the States, where I’m 100% certain family members would come to help us out for as long as we needed. Given the distance, that just wouldn’t happen if we stayed in AUS/NZ. SO thinks we can just handle it on our own.

We wouldn’t need to find new jobs, as we can just transfer internally. Would taking advantage of your home support network be enough of a reason to back to your home country?

    • texas_asic@alien.topBEnglish
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      10 months ago

      It’s certainly not a good situation in the US, but the odds are still in your favor. Let’s say your kid was in the Uvalde school district. They have over 4K kids and lost 19. That’s 1/2 of 1%, in one of the worst school shootings.

      That said, firearms are the leading cause of deaths for kids in the US. They’re getting shot, but usually not by strangers.

      https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/nejmc2201761

      That said, all cause mortality for kids is bad in the US compared to almost all other OECD (developed) countries except for New Zealand (which is about as poor as the USA is for older kids). https://www.healthaffairs.org/doi/10.1377/hlthaff.2017.0767

      • sminismoni2@alien.topBEnglish
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        10 months ago

        Yeah, and the number of kids killed in a school shooting last year in Australia? Zero. You can’t say “only” 0.05% of US kids died in a particular school shooting, so the risk is low. You have to compare the countries.