What kinds of things do you feel comfortable or uncomfortable saying?
I’m a big fan of being on the receiving end, but sometimes I get a little uncomfortable. I had a partner who I know started believing what he was saying near the end of the relationship, and blurring those boundaries really messed with my head.
I’m a big fan of being told that I’m not intelligent - “dumb slut” etc - because I know that I am actually smarter than most of my sexual partners IRL but like to be a brainless fuck toy during the act.
I like being on the receiving end, to an extent. My favorite things to do and hear revolve around the idea of being just an object for my partner’s pleasure, some name calling (slut, bitch, 3-holed fucktoy), having to ask for permission to do things, and being teased for how horny I’m getting. I don’t like insults to my looks or value as a person, nor do I do any kind of public humiliation or exposure.
As for giving it…I can’t see myself in a dynamic where I’m expected to degrade and humiliate anyone on a regular basis. I could do it once in a while if my partner really wanted it, but I wouldn’t enjoy it.