I have three with one on the way. It’s a constant struggle to keep the place livable. Before I had children I was not a neat person and kept things livable by not doing things that made mess and staying out as much as possible. Can’t do that with kids, so what’s the trick?
We had a joint bday for my three year old and his friend who are three days apart. The absolute fucking chaos that was my house afterward, it was too much to handle. Clean the perishables, but just the mountain of toys, literally every toy we had, strewn about, that became a tomorrow problem. Especially because we did the family birthday the next day. Tough weekend. But the kids have fun and what the hell else am I doing.