I am very middle aged and I still remember my first “fancy” dinner… I kept.forgetting how to hold my knife and fork and my mate’s mum leant over and helped. I still feel a bit out of place at fancy dinners. It’s fun to play and try new things though.
I was at a foster care house for a while and the foster carer and her son both got really, really, really angry at me for not holding a knife and fork right (I held a knife in my left hand and more like a broomstick despite being right handed), but neither of them wanted to teach me or explain what the go was. I only learnt how to properly hold cutlery and knives when I was 14/15. My previous fanciest dinner would probably have been an RSL, but since those tables aren’t really shared, nobody gives much of a shot how you eat things as long as you’re not obnoxious about it and meet their dress code thing.
I’ve actually picked up a lot of my manners and social norms from old Australian soap operas (namely prisoner) + stories from my mum. Just generally speaking, I don’t think much beyond basic manners is really a thing in my generation. Even an expensive sit down restaurant doesn’t necessarily mean it’s fancy or will even have a dress code, let alone any concern about manners or over a dozen types of silverware
No doubt, but I think I’m mostly set now. I mean I guarantee I’m going to forget everything I learnt tonight, but I have never needed them before so I don’t think it’s likely I’ll need them again any time soon. The only reason I really cared about them is that it was 10 person shared tables with older people, and the innate urge to try and fit in ear overpowering
That dude was a dick.
I am very middle aged and I still remember my first “fancy” dinner… I kept.forgetting how to hold my knife and fork and my mate’s mum leant over and helped. I still feel a bit out of place at fancy dinners. It’s fun to play and try new things though.
I was at a foster care house for a while and the foster carer and her son both got really, really, really angry at me for not holding a knife and fork right (I held a knife in my left hand and more like a broomstick despite being right handed), but neither of them wanted to teach me or explain what the go was. I only learnt how to properly hold cutlery and knives when I was 14/15. My previous fanciest dinner would probably have been an RSL, but since those tables aren’t really shared, nobody gives much of a shot how you eat things as long as you’re not obnoxious about it and meet their dress code thing.
I’ve actually picked up a lot of my manners and social norms from old Australian soap operas (namely prisoner) + stories from my mum. Just generally speaking, I don’t think much beyond basic manners is really a thing in my generation. Even an expensive sit down restaurant doesn’t necessarily mean it’s fancy or will even have a dress code, let alone any concern about manners or over a dozen types of silverware
There are probably YT videos.
No doubt, but I think I’m mostly set now. I mean I guarantee I’m going to forget everything I learnt tonight, but I have never needed them before so I don’t think it’s likely I’ll need them again any time soon. The only reason I really cared about them is that it was 10 person shared tables with older people, and the innate urge to try and fit in ear overpowering
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