Is this a big deal or I’m just over thinking it and its normal I’m fine. Their relationship lasted about a year so she’s having sex at the age of 13 through her 14. After her ex she’s doesn’t have any encounter until we met at Freshman of college. She’s 18 and I’m 19 at that time. So in summary she have two body counts one on her ex at 13-14 years of age second is me at 18.

  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.zipEnglish
    3·
    5 months ago

    Is your native language not English?

    You could have just said “My girlfriend has one previous sexual partner before high school, should I be worried?”

    ‘Body Count’ as a less than polite phrase aside, it would be 1, as this refers to previous sexual partners.

    …

    To attempt to answer two questions you may actually be asking:

    1. If you are concerned that she may have some kind unhealthy or immature concept of how sex works in a relationship, due to a fairly young age for a first sexual relationship, yeah maybe that is concerning, maybe she has some trauma related to that, maybe it’s not a problem at all.

    You would need to talk to her about that or give us some more details.

    1. If you are worried that you are a virgin and she is not, and that you might not sexually please her, then communicate this to her, or communicate during sex so that you can better please her and she can better please you.

    A good partner would be understanding, supportive and helpful.

    A bad one would mock you, and being with a bad partner isn’t worth your time.

    You’ve given no details about her actual personality or anything, so I have no way of knowing what kind of person she is.

    • Damnler@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      02·
      5 months ago

      She’s a wise, caring, understanding and simply beautiful woman. She will only do such things when her ex initiates it. One more thing I like about her, is her honesty. She’s quick to admit and confess about it.

      • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.zipEnglish
        1·
        5 months ago

        Well when you put it like that, I’d say take it slow, be caring, honest and understanding back toward her, and things will probably work out well!

        It sounds like she may be somewhat embarrassed by this past relationship, and you sound like you are capable of appreciating her overcoming that embarrassment or shame and being trusting and open with you.