The reason why I’m asking this question is because alot of my friends are saying that I’m a loser and weirdo because I’m 26 years old and I have never been on a date with anyone.
I don’t want to go on dates with anyone or go meet anyone parents or even have anyone live with me in my 1 bedroom condo.
All I want to do in life is play video games and watch anime all day and jerk off to my anime waifus everyday in my 1 bedroom condo because they’re hot as fuck.
But what do you guys think am I a loser for not wanting to go on a date with anyone ever or no?
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I don’t know about loser but I do think you’re setting yourself for an unpleasant wake-up at some point.
Spend your youth jerking it, playing video games and never going through the learnings, experiences, joys and heartbreaks of relationships, if you realize in a dozen years that there is a gaping partner/meaning/joy void in your life, it’ll be much harder to fix. Believe me, dating does not get easier in middle age. Especially if you don’t want kids.
It’s sort of like any other drug, easy and appealing alternative to life’s difficulties in the moment but consistent use tends to lead to serious problems down the road.
That being said, if you’re 26 and haven’t been on a date, I imagine there are bigger issues than a preference for video games and waifus. I suspect the women with whom you have a chance aren’t attractive enough for you so it leads to this spiral. And frankly, lowering your standards sucks and lifting yourself up to meet others’ standards is a lot of work.
Don’t really have an answer but those are my middle aged thoughts. I’m old, balding, don’t want kids and haven’t seriously dated for a couple of years as I’m adjusting to this new reality. But goddamn I am happy I spent my late 20s sleeping with a lot of fun folks and in a few meaningful relationships. I grew every time I fell in love, cherish some of the crazy times and know I’m a better person for it all. Those experiences and memories are big motivators for getting into better shape, working on myself etc so that when I’m ready, I can aim for another of those awesome fun relationships.
Your life your choices, if you’re fulfilled by video games, anime and jerking it to waifus, you do you.
You sound depressed
alot of my friends are saying that I’m a loser and weirdo
These people are NOT your friends
lmao, quality shit post… but seriously sex is awesome …vaginas are awesome, if you are into that, would recommend 10/10 over anime waifus
Quality shitpost
Doing better than me trying to be in relationships but still having less sex than my ace friend because she married someone who isnt ace and feels confortable obliging them I guess.
I don’t quite understand thinking fake images are hot as fuck, they aren’t real?
But you aren’t hurting anyone, your friends need to chill. Enjoying the life you have is a good life, by definition. You don’t have to decide what you are doing for your whole life right now either, if you change your mind later you can change your life then.
I don’t call any of my friends losers. If I call them a weirdo, I mean it as a compliment. I’m a weirdo myself. I don’t think the problem is your sex life or desires. The problem might be that you don’t have strong boundaries. Maybe have a boundary where you won’t tolerate being called a loser. Tell them you don’t like that. If they continue to do so, then stop hanging out with them. If they get upset, that’s their problem. You don’t have to tolerate that. Even better, there are people out there that don’t want to call you a loser. You just haven’t found them yet, and it’s going to be hard to find them if you keep spending time with people that don’t want you to be respected.
What if you found a girl who was also into anime and video games?
If I met a woman that was into to anime and video games. I would ask for her discord username so that I can play video games with her and talk about anime with her on discord. But I would still never go on a date with her because I love being by myself and not having any responsibilities in life.
Asking for her discord and playing games together IS a date homie, even virtually. Just not the classic traditional date in that sense. My wife and I have been together for 21 years and have a son together. We still watch anime and play video games. It’s like I’m on a date with her everyday. In my case, not virtually.
It’s all about sharing experience together.
I agree that me asking for her discord and playing video games with her online could be considered a date to alot of people.
But my reason for asking her discord and playing video games with her online is just so I can have a new friend. I do not want to date her and have her move in with me. Because I like being myself and having no responsibilities in life.
Fair. Counter point, my wife and I are each other’s best friends. We trust each other’s deepest secrets and we depend on each other. We just find it more convenient to communicate with each other’s friendship in person and in the same house.
You can also have a similar, if not exact relationship online.
All I want to do in life is play video games and watch anime all day and
Life will become better once you grow up.
You’re like my old roommate who says the same things. But he gets girlfriends then wants to break up with them to be by himself for same reasons. I have noticed as he got into his 30s he started evolving a bit so maybe you’ll feel different then. Getting laid is pretty great. My take: you’re a still an adolescent, but physically an adult = adultescent
All sexual and romantic orientations are equally valid. There’s no reason why fulfillment should depend on someone else.
They’re insecure mate, always needing to compare. I’m the same, I’m not gonna be in a relationship unless I feel love. The act of wanting to get physical, where the body moves on its own and you need to specifically stop the body from moving to not, rather than put effort to move… the feeling is mutual when it comes. I’ve personally not felt it and won’t engage in a sexual relation until I do.
If anything you seem happier than them from the description, however incomprehensible that may seem from the content of your post. People generally do not behave that way, going out of the way to make a point that they are in a good place in life, even more so showing that they are better than others, if their own lives are not secretly unhappy wrecks and they’re too embarrassed to work on it… instead choosing to fool others and themselves.
If it were me, I’d cut off contact pretty much immediately and even advise you to do the same, though in most cases people do in fact stay around regardless.
If you’re happy then you’re happy. No one else can tell you what you want. If you’re unhappy with your situation find a therapist to help you work through it but you’re not a loser for wanting to be on your own. Not at all.
