• Maalus@lemmy.world
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        2 months ago

        Being a chad isn’t really about being buff or something. It’s about doing what you did. As you said, everyone in the bar was eyeing her, wondering, imagining. You were the one that immediately sat down and started talking. You risked possible humiliation, the “walk of shame” away from her, etc. You were 10 steps ahead when people didn’t realize they could walk up to her.

        But at the end of the day, greentext still stands. Your wife didn’t really walk up there alone - her friend was late. She would’ve been in a “group” otherwise. She probably wouldn’t get into that uber and gotten to the party if the friend wasn’t late.

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          Yeah shit, I really didn’t mean for the moral of my story to be prey on vulnerable women. But that is kinda why it worked for me isn’t it. But she did walk in alone, and I did pounce.

          I was really just trying to give advice to anyone struggling. Just be at the place, have shit going on, be confident and charismatic.

          It’s really not hard.

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            2 months ago

            I don’t think you preyed on a vulnerable woman. Wasn’t my intention to say that.

            But you literally won the lottery. Lottery winners shouldn’t give investing advice to broke people. Point is you were lucky. Lucky she was single. Lucky that she liked your looks, lucky that she went in alone, lucky that she had no sense of self preservation and went into that Uber. Lucky that she didn’t get a dating app, since women tend to get 100s of responses if not thousands when she’s really attractive.

            Don’t get me wrong, I was lucky too with my past relationships. Some seemed like fate, everything lining up. An old flame reaching out out of nowhere. Me going to exam prep for something that I wasn’t even doing an exam for and meeting someone I’ve been crushing on but didn’t know at all. Taking a first date to a predominately lizard pet store (saw it during a walk and acted lile going there was planned) not knowing she was a huge lizard fan and actually had geckos at home. But at the end of the day, opportunities like that hapen very rarely. When you are looking to date, going to a bar isn’t the best choice.

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          everyone in the bar was eyeing her

          Eh, I take that as exaggeration. I’m guessing a lot of that was in OP’s head.

          “walk of shame” away from her

          OP was with friends. Yeah, they probably would’ve given him a hard time, but it would’ve come from a place of support.

          It’s scary to put yourself out there, and most of the time it doesn’t pay off. But at the end of the day, you need to take a chance every now and then or you’ll always get what you’ve always got.