Straightforward: my 29-year-old son is dating a 16-year-old girl he met at a jazz festival this summer. Openly. He had a same age long-term girlfriend until last year, when they broke up amicably. We really loved her, she was basically our daughter-in-law and we’re still in touch. His current girlfriend’s parents know about their relationship & are cool with it. For the record: it’s also legal in our country. We don’t think it’s right though, he’s a grown ass man while she’s a high schooler. He’s also very successful professionally, handsome, takes good care of himself, has a good personality, etc. so it’s not like he’s lacking options. He just says he likes her - that’s his why. He’s not a bad person, I know that, but still this whole situation has changed our perception of him quite a bit. We’re having a rough time to say the least.
My first thought is REBOUND RELATIONSHIP. His long-term breakup may have been “amicable”, but it seems like it hurt him more than you (or possibly even he) realize. I think a major part of what he likes about his new girlfriend is being in a relationship where he clearly has the upper hand.
Whose idea was the breakup? “It was both of theirs” is not a real answer. Someone had to initiate the conversation. Who was it?