The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/AnxiousDramatic13 on 2025-03-12 23:03:51.

So I 27F and Boyfriend 30M have lived together for 5 years. I’d say I do about 80% of the housework. Up until recently, we both had full time jobs. Recently Boyfriend got laid off work due the company he worked for shutting down. So he’s at home most of the day till he gets another job. Before I went to work this morning I asked him to empty the bins. Came home this evening and no bins were empty. I felt really annoyed. So I brought it up. I asked why he didn’t employ them and he just said he would do it tomorrow. So to cut a long story short I wanted to have a discussion about housework and how everything should be 50/50. He did what he he always does, got really quiet and sad saying he didn’t know what to say. Part of me thought he was gaslighting me into apologising to him, but I stuck my ground. I even said that since he’s the one at home all day he should actually be doing more housework than me. He’s still not speaking to me. AITA?