The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Exact_One_93 on 2025-03-13 01:39:20.

Recently I(32f) have noticed that my(32m) husband just doesn’t brush his teeth in the morning. Kind of a weird thing to notice I know, but we have electric toothbrushes and sometimes he leaves his charging (in another room) for more than a day. That’s how I know he’s not brushing twice a day or even sometimes at least once.

Now this wouldn’t bother me if I hadn’t noticed that some days his breath literally smells like actual death. And I feel awful for even noticing, but some days when we’re chilling at home or driving somewhere, I can smell it and start feeling kinda sick.

The other night we were out with some friends and I could smell something awful, it took me only a few seconds to realise it was his breath! I had to excuse myself to the bathroom after five minutes to get a break from it. Usually when I can smell it we’re not around other people, so I don’t mention it.

On the way home from this social gathering I tried to talk to him about his brushing habits and he got really upset at me. I felt terrible but I just wanted to think of him and was thinking maybe somebody else noticed (tbh I can nearly guarantee someone noticed)

It’s something I’d like to discuss with him again but I do know how insulting it is to be told your breath smells. He has great healthy teeth, never needs fillings or any dental work when he goes in for a checkup, but the smell is starting to really make me feel ill when we are together and I’m sure that he would be more embarrassed if he knew how noticeable it is

Added context: he’s not been to the dentist in a few years but I can’t sign him up for him, I have tried, and I tried to sign him up to a gp, they both told me he has to do this himself. I have been trying for our whole marriage to get him to go to the doctor for his snoring, and he just doesn’t go.

As far as I can tell it’s not his tonsils. I personally struggled a lot with my tonsils in my 20s, and had them removed. Whenever he’s been sick I’ve always checked tonsils first, and they are smooth, like small and smooth. He wasn’t even aware tonsil stones existed when I was sick with my tonsil issues, I think anyone with tonsil stones are aware of them (right?)

I suspect he has ADHD

Another edit for more context: his other hygiene habits are fine. He showers daily and shaves daily, washes properly and all that, wearing deodorant and fragrance, always has trimmed nails - it’s just his dental hygiene that’s not good