• pelespirit@sh.itjust.works
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    9 days ago

    eh? What would that look like?

    That’s why I feel like homophobia is something that should be less reviled, and more looked at as a trauma inflicted on the homophobe

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      9 days ago

      Not entirely sure… but I think you have an issue with the premise of my statement first, if you’d like to discuss that?

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        9 days ago

        No, I don’t understand what you’re saying. What would “looking at as a trauma,” look? Would they go to therapy for the trauma inflicted on them for being hateful? I don’t know what you’re saying.

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          9 days ago

          That the trauma inflicted on them drove them to be hateful, not the trauma inflected from being hateful.

          The hate as the result (as in, an unhealthy coping mechanism), not the cause.

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            9 days ago

            It seems like a difficult thing to do in practice. You wouldn’t know they had trauma until they started acting out their hate.

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              9 days ago

              That’s the trauma, the oppression of their own sexual freedom which leads to homophobia

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                9 days ago

                But, how would you know to treat it before they acted out their hate? Are you saying we should have compassion after they acted out their homophobia?

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                    9 days ago

                    Absolutely. Is that what you’re saying you want? You’re being extremely dodgy about what you’re saying. I’m not trying to go after you or anything. I honestly don’t understand.

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      There are secret homosexuals who are homophobes because they have been bullied. Some are openly gay but are self-hating because of bullying as well. To put it succinctly, there are self-hating gays because they have internalised the oppression, and that is manifestation of trauma.

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          but what is the use of knowing that information?

          Bottling down the innate sexuality towards the same sex because of societal constraints is bad for the person’s well-being. At worst, it self-perpetuate the culture of homophobia because the self-loathing person adds fuel to the fire.

          What can anyone do about it.

          Learn to accept that homosexuality is perfectly fine, and those with internalised oppression needs therapy.