Not OP but mine are, anything wrong with it? Communication aims at information exchange, if you wanna say hey just say hey, we don’t need to waste away doing empty, false gestures at each other. You want to learn something I know? Happy to help! Vice versa? I hope you also don’t mind.
Wanna waste air with saying empty words, devoid of any actual meaning? You’d get the most appropriate version of “Yeah” and a stare urging you to get to the point.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, but it clashes with my personal strategy. I call it greasing the wheel : exchanging small talk and trivial common experiences with someone is a great way to prepare the channel for high density information exchange. It’s really a small setup investment that more than pays for itself in the long run.
I would also speculate that your own position is not as clear cut as you think. You probably hate small talk for your own reasons, and then rationalize that as an utilitarian point. People who rely on high-density information exchange are generally pretty good at small talk, and they’ll invest a lot in low-stakes, high-noise low-signal interactions.
Not OP but mine are, anything wrong with it? Communication aims at information exchange, if you wanna say hey just say hey, we don’t need to waste away doing empty, false gestures at each other. You want to learn something I know? Happy to help! Vice versa? I hope you also don’t mind.
Wanna waste air with saying empty words, devoid of any actual meaning? You’d get the most appropriate version of “Yeah” and a stare urging you to get to the point.
Metadata is data. Skipping small talk is exchanging less information.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, but it clashes with my personal strategy. I call it greasing the wheel : exchanging small talk and trivial common experiences with someone is a great way to prepare the channel for high density information exchange. It’s really a small setup investment that more than pays for itself in the long run.
I would also speculate that your own position is not as clear cut as you think. You probably hate small talk for your own reasons, and then rationalize that as an utilitarian point. People who rely on high-density information exchange are generally pretty good at small talk, and they’ll invest a lot in low-stakes, high-noise low-signal interactions.