• sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz
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    10 days ago

    Woah, necropost 🖐️ Pretty easy to avoid places like that. Or at least stick to lurking. Lurking is great, nobody yells at you for not being perfect

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        10 days ago

        No worries, it means you’re already doing literally what I suggested 😅 yeah some people aren’t going to be open to talking with someone who they perceive has hurt them recently, even if you’re literally just some guy who had a question.

        Feminism as an idea has come around because most of us are wounded. Everyone’s still in their own journey end probably gonna be shitty sometimes, especially in an online place where they’re accustomed to venting. But hey, this is a place for male centric gendered issues. The sub on reddit was a pretty chill place too, when I was there. I’m a messy problematic fucker and I’ve never had anyone here scold me * on menslib

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          9 days ago

          I’ll be honest. I never felt more like giving up then when I was using that sub. Most of it falls onto the same issues of the broader gender discussion.

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            8 days ago

            There’s something to be said about how narrow specific gender issues are interlinked with broader ones. But that’s kind of a deep cut that’s prone to scaring people away. Just curious, do you think this comm feels different then the reddit sub did?

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                8 days ago

                Well, would you want to try starting a thread? If it’s about the male experience than people here will be able to relate right?

                I’m personally too afraid of the internet to be a certain level of genuine on a self-post, so if you do want to talk about something feel free to message me. I might not be able to relate but I don’t scold, I just correlate everything with industrial history because I’m batshit crazy.

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                    8 days ago

                    Facts, yeah. There kind of isn’t room sometimes to be ignorant or on the wrong side of a power dynamic whether or not you actually used that power.

                    Stick around, though. There’s conversations happening here that years ago I would not have dared bringing up in front of people even if they were trying to change or escape the same burdens of masculinity I am.