I can’t tell if the producers are just picking couples that have major secrets for the drama. But I can’t imagine being in a long-distance relationship in which all you can do is talk on the phone — and yet when you start the 90 days you are only just finding out major life details about your partner??

  • Gino didn’t tell Jasmine about quitting
  • Jasmine lied about the butt implants
  • Nikki only admitted she was trans during a fight
  • Sophie hadn’t told Rob about her ovary cyst surgery
  • Ashley didn’t tell her fiancé she was a witch
  • Her partner (sorry forgot his name but would never forget Rico MFing Suave) lied to his family about where he was

There might be more as I’m only a few episodes in. It’s just odd to me because I could never keep major life events like that to myself in a relationship. Is that just more normal than I realise??

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    10 months ago

    On the other hand I was surprised that Sarper had already told Shekinah about having a child out there.

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    10 months ago

    A while ago, someone shared an ad for 90 Day, and one of the questions said “do you have a secret you haven’t told your long distance partner” or something like that. Producers have shared that they choose the “dumbest” cast because they don’t restrain themselves thinking about how they will come across.

    Apparently, that’s what we are all watching for.

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    10 months ago

    The only one out of those that I don’t think is a big deal is Sophie not telling Rob she’s had surgery for an ovarian cyst. She was a teenager when it happened. I’ve had ovarian cysts that I’ve had surgery and it’s not really an important detail at all, unlike all the other ones that truly impact a relationship.

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    10 months ago

    I can almost understand Sophie not talking about her surgery but not telling him she is bi is a little questionable unless she doesn’t fully trust him or he has used things against her.

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    10 months ago

    whenever my gf and I watch this show we’re always so baffled when we hear someone say “they don’t know this but we’ll figure it out when they get here” like what??? that’s something you should be telling your partner before they leave their country to live with you

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    10 months ago

    They do it for drama on the show. Wife and I applied for the show, but we got rejected because we are a normal couple with kids and jobs. And yes, I did try to upsell the potential drama and fact our “normal” life is drastically different than most people’s life given our background and socio-economic status

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    10 months ago

    If people went about this process without ridiculous and unnecessary drama it wouldn’t make very good tv.

    Imagine someone moving to a foreign country and researching it first!

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    10 months ago

    The production company seeks these dynamics out. One of the questions on their initial application is something like, “Do you have a secret you haven’t told or are afraid to tell your partner?” It makes me think that people are encouraged to create secrets if they don’t already have one ready to spill.

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    10 months ago

    I see this the most in the 90day world but that is this the myth of the “secret” they build storylines off that there is a secret one of the cast hasn’t told the other, but as a viewer we also have to suspend disbelief and forget about the cameras or the fact that they both are fully aware that the secret will come to life on camera in front of the world. So is it really a secret when we see it play out on camera? Probably not

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    10 months ago

    my friend was attempting to go on the show with a lover she met in another country, and one of the questions they asked her is if she has anything she was hiding from said partner, so yes, the producers search for couples that aren’t honest/have drama in their backstory

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    10 months ago
    • Ashley didn’t tell her fiancé she was a witch

    Isn’t that her religion? Why should she tell him in advance? If someone is Catholic (and I’m not), I wouldn’t expect them to tell me (unless they themselves have a problem with me not being).

    Or is it a hobby?

    If it’s a profession, she should tell him - the question of what someone does for work is often one of the first things people ask themselves.

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    10 months ago

    I gotta start lying to women … That’s why I’m single. Too honest 😔

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    10 months ago

    I would like to believe that most regular normal people wouldn’t keep secrets like that to their partner. I personally wouldn’t move forward with a relationship if a secret to those proportions came out. I even have difficulties moving forward a relationship after smaller lies than that.