I’m in Britain and I really hate the eyelashes, fillers and makeup here for young girls sometimes and the intense pressure I see everywhere to get them. Poor girlies.

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    I’m British, and I’ve been living in the USA for over a decade. The need to be loud and positive all the time (regardless of how you actually feel) will never cease to confuse me.

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      1 year ago

      I would say that most Americans are generally positive, meaning it’s not just an act.

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      1 year ago

      I’m British too and it sure beats the British need to be quiet and grumbly all the time regardless of how you actually feel lol

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          Since living in a positive minded country, I’ve realised how toxic it is to downplay anything good or make an excuse about how every achievement you have isn’t really that special. In the UK, you almost have to do that to be polite and it’s a habit I’m still trying to shake.

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            Yep! US takes it too far the other way, but that’s not to take away from your statement at all. The lack of confidence I see in some of my direct reports in the UK seems an unfortunate effect of this.

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      In contrast we brits will actively look for things to complain about, I’d rather have false positiveness.

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      Having lived in the UK a few years and now moved back, my intolerance for forced positivity has actually changed who I feel I can trust now. It’s now a completely different assessment of the behavior than before I’d moved abroad.

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        So curious about this statement!

        I find that as i get more experience, the constant positive spin on everything in the US especially at work can be quite demoralizing…