• janonymous@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    He says that he feels like this all the time, while she only feels like that five days a month. Sure, he is not saying that her pain is lesser, but he is saying that he is suffering more. And that is what (most) people here mock. That this comic suggests that men suffer more than women. That responding to someone explaining their pain with “actually, I suffer like that all the time” is childish behavior. This isn’t about men sharing their pain, it’s about the one-upping what she is saying.

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        23 hours ago

        There is a productive way to talk about your pain and going “I suffer more than you” is not it. No matter the gender.

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            20 hours ago

            Man, I get it. You see how man are treated with less empathy, their pain diminished, their emotions denied and then faulted for being angry all the time, the only emotion that seems to be acceptable as a man. But you’re going to hard in the other direction. It’s not just black and white. Just because a man is talking about his pain doesn’t mean he can’t be a dick about it. And that is what this comic demonstrates. If you’re honest to yourself I’m sure you can see that too. If not, you know, sorry to hear. Not much I can do to change your mind.

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        2 days ago

        You’re not going to salvage this one. Neither of the characters are being good, and we both know the guy is assumed to be the bigger asshole in this comic. Regardless of what realities exist, most people are going to read what is presented as misogynistic.

        The truth is, they’re both failing to communicate, so anyone using this as a sexist cudgel is only revealing their own bias. Because, again, they both suck in this comic. There are no heroes here, so anyone claiming otherwise is… ignorant at best.

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        2 days ago

        the last panel should say “I also suffer in similar ways, let’s share how we cope” instead of saying “You suffer less than me”

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            1 day ago

            No, all humans should sympathize and empathize instead of measure and compare when it comes to suffering.

            You interpret it as a man vs woman thing because you consume mysogynistic ideology, willingly or not

            Do you have kids? One you get along with toddlers and their mothers as an adult man you should have the tools necessary to break free from that stuff. Good luck.