Please give me advice. My wife and I have never been close with our families. They are okay people but just so different than we are. Well, We moved away once, for 18 months, and we both missed our families, oddly enough to us. Well we moved back, moved really close to family, and now feel like wtf were we thinking. One week is fine next week is drama and terrible behavior on their part. They don’t think they’re ever in the wrong, they won’t communicate about it, it’s frustrating. We want to move away again and this time for good as it was planned to be last time. How do we break through that barrier of missing our families after some time apart but leaving it be just that, fond memories and seeing each other during holiday and not getting all depressed and existential about wanting to go fishing with dad and making dinners with mom.
Edit: we won’t be moving just an hour away, the two places we are interested in would be either a) a 6 hour plane ride, or b) a 13 hour plane ride.
I think it’s just human nature unfortunately. We tend to love our families unconditionally, regardless of our faults.
In many ways, I really hate my father, a very self absorbed man who rarely thinks about anyone but himself…and yet there’s a part of me that still wants to have a connection there.
Best I can suggest is to spend time with them and communicate with them in a way that is most comfortable to you.