I feel like we have some fundamental value differences so when I find someone who’s like me, I get really happy.

How do I find them?

In hostels 99% of people are actively into drinking

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    10 months ago

    damn good luck. it’s very difficult to find that. people always look at you in a weird way when you say that. a bit odd but I used (as a girl) bumble friends to find like minded people on that point

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    10 months ago

    I would say quite a lot of nomads don’t drink, most people in hostels are young and on vacation trips.

    You could also just have non-alcoholic drinks and still hang out with people drinking.

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    10 months ago

    I don’t stay at hostels, which helps. I choose to stay a bit longer per place, so i can rent somewhere which often turns out way cheaper.

    Staying in hostels 365 days per year would drive me insane.

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    10 months ago

    Go to an AA mtg. Seriously. I met a girl in Tulum who was in AA. Then I found out a half dozen of our mutual friends were in it too. I had had no idea. Very warm an welcoming place there at least.

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      10 months ago

      Wow that’s so strange. Someone should start a Friends Anonymous franchise to meet new people!

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    10 months ago

    Digitwl nomads don’t stay in hostels. That’s more of a backpacker thing.

    Can you hang out with people who drink but just do other activities where they are not drinking?

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    10 months ago

    Try bath houses and saunas. Met lots of folks in the ice bath at Amo SPA in Canggu or the steam room at the Istana in Uluwatu. A lot of people go there every evening instead of visiting a bar.

    Other activities I’d recommend are yoga, HITT and breath work classes, entrepreneurship meetups or worshops.

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        10 months ago

        Lol not wrong. I do the same thing though in other places 😅

        Yunomori Onsen in BKK Vabali in Berlin Archimedes Banya in SF

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        10 months ago

        That’s only if Mom/Dad/Family Trust Fund is paying for the luxury spa membership [not a bad price, tbh]. If they’re paying their own way, that would be a departure from the typical Bali-flunkie.

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    10 months ago

    Find the local running club that runs in the morning.

    I find people aren’t drinking as much, but vaping seems much more common.

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    10 months ago

    Skip the hostels. Outdoor who don’t drink tend to do morning stuff like running or yoga or other physical activities. I’d try those.

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    10 months ago

    I try to stay in more alternative hostels if I have to but prefer private accommodation for this reason. Meet people at gym classes/yoga/health cafes.

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    10 months ago

    Haha I wanna say find a Muslim traveller but then some people just have different persona when they travelling… haha