People generally aren’t burning sage, lighting candles or collecting crystals to treat psychological issues. Those things are a part of valid spiritual practice, and I don’t really know anyone who does that stuff who doesn’t believe in going to the doctor. I’ve been seeing a therapist since I was 12 and I take Wellbutrin, but I also consult a shaman once in a while. Some people do all of the things. I would be willing to try anything to treat depression - ketamine, shrooms, dream therapy, whatever. I would say that people who are more open minded to these things are more likely to seek help and various therapists.

She was laughing because she was playing down the trauma and dismissing it because she likely feels humiliated

They’re always projecting. One of my exes accused me of cheating. Guess who actually was…

I just looked up JADU, and if it is that, there’s a problem still. It says that in a JADU, you can “share a bathroom with the single family home.” The bathroom Rob has is clearly not attached to another dwelling, right? It’s basically an outhouse.

Yeah there’s a lawyer in my office who knows about landlord tenant law so I’ll ask him tomorrow. It does feel illegal

I live in LA and I know that there are legal SROs (single room occupancy), but they’re usually converted hotels or other legal dwellings. There’s usually shared bathrooms on the floor. But Rob’s situation feels illegal because the bathroom isn’t even attached to the dwelling. I work in law, so tomorrow I’m going to see if there’s a building code about this.

It’s probably not. LA has very strict rules about housing. I’m off to google the building codes

It has to be an illegal apartment. I live in LA in a questionable neighborhood and I’ve never seen that anywhere.

He’s extremely resentful and jealous of her. It’s seeping through her pores. She doesn’t seem like a snob at all, but he seems cruel. Also, it is actually insane to pay rent for an apartment that doesn’t have a bathroom inside. I hope he pays like $17 a month.

Yes, because he is very clearly abusive. If people want to learn how to suss out abusers, they should study Rob and his BS.

He has several red flags for being an abuser. As a survivor of severe IPV in which I almost died, he is setting off my alarm bells. Sophie needs to run.