The behaviour was based on Windows desktop apps in the 90s

Ah, so that’s why it was chosen as the default here.

When I first signed up here, or tried to sign up here, join-lemmy just didn’t want to load anything. So I ended up going to bed and trying again the next morning. The next morning, it finally loaded the list of instances and going by the experience I had just had with the website battling to even load anything, I chose an instance advertised as “join here to reduce load on larger instances”. And this instance just didn’t want to load anything properly. Half of the images in posts just weren’t showing up. And when I searched LGBTQ+ and feminist communities, only dead communities showed up and I’m pretty sure nothing from Blåhaj.

Then I went to world and still found it to be a ghost town. Eventually I realised that it was because ‘English’ wasn’t selected in my language settings. Because I didn’t realise that you have to ctrl click to select both ‘undefined’ and ‘English’. I’ve used software where you have to ctrl click but I’m not sure I’ve ever come across another website where this is the case. And on this note, the whole fact that ‘undefined’ even exists as an option comes across as bush league and makes it look like a beta version.

Then there’s another issue here. The god damn internal politics. So someone signs up on the insurance that says “focused on programming and development”, then have everyone calling them a tankie or be cut off from multiple instances that have de-federated. It’s clear to me now that ‘ml’ stands for “Marxist Leninist” but when you’re new here and just looking at descriptions in join-lemmy, it just looks like a unique url like all the others.

Personally I think there’s a lot of reasons that people would give up trying to get started here. That’s before even trying to break them ice with a silly question in AskLemmy and getting snarky snark and smart asses in the replies. And I use that as an example because in my first week here, I saw someone post an innocent question in AskLemmy, get hostility as a response, then leave.

Was the Reddit version of this community like this with people coming in to ‘both sides’ the conversation? I don’t think it was like this. Lemmy has a real problem with people just not caring about what the community is before they come in to drop their hot their hot takes. I’ve even seen people go into !reddit@lemmy.world to complain about people posting about Reddit. I mean, come on.

As for that 18% of violent crimes being committed by women stat, that still means 82% of the perpetrators were men, so that’s hardly the pwn it was made out to be. It’s grasping at straws to keep ignoring that there’s any problem.

I’ll also just leave this here:

Ah, that does suck. I’m in such a comfort zone with this app, even with the issues. But I guess it’s time to start shopping around again. I wonder if the dev has just gone back to Infinity full time. Not sure how they managed it but last I checked, it’s still pretty easy to use for Reddit with a workaround or two. When I left Reddit, I was using a method where you build the app yourself using your own developer key provided by Reddit.

Yeah fuck them lol. I’d like to see how their platform does without users. Then it’ll just be a fun little coding project for them, nothing more. There’s already other options. At least Piefed is actively working on adding missing features and improving the end user experience. And isn’t stuck in 1999.

It’s very cool that they built this platform and much appreciated. But if they’re then going to turn around and act like trans people shouldn’t be concerned about transphobia if it comes from one of their own, because we should all be grateful and thankful to our overlords instead, then they can shove their fkn half baked platform.

And that’s just the difference between the right and the left anyway. With the exception of extremes like nazism, a leftist government would allow churches and let these fkn clowns do whatever they want to do in their free time and live their lives the way they want. Whereas a right wing government will force their religion onto people whether they want it or not and strip generalized groups of people of their rights because apparently their imaginary friend wants them to do that.

If only the big bad left would be a little less tolerant of delusions and stupidity, maybe the world would be a better place. Because the moment the delusional stupid people get the chance, they prove to all of us why they never deserved tolerance in the first place. Seems all too clear to me now that religious conservatives simply cannot be trusted to play nicely with everyone else and should never be allowed near positions of power ever again, just like nazis.

Take time to be a better person. Doing that fights them just as well as all the other stuff.

That is a great way of reframing it. And honestly it is a big help right now with the way I’ve been thinking lately. So thank you for taking the time to post this, seriously. I’ve got some thoughts that need rearranging now.

I’m in a similar space right now. Tired of being angry. Tired of feeling bad about things I said earlier when the people who it was said to will never feel bad about a thing in their lives. In a perfect world I would spend my days online looking at cat pictures, not despairing while these clowns dismantle women’s rights, trans rights, gay rights, religious freedom, environmental protections, workers rights etc. and their idiot legion thinking it’s all just wonderful.

It’s a catch 22 for me because I cannot and will not keep quiet. I’ve spent my life fighting these fucking people and I’m not about to stop now that the fight is more important than ever. Even if it most likely won’t amount to anything, considering that 50% of the world’s population seems to have been replaced by pod people over the last decade.

So I dunno. I’m personally at odds with being at a point in my life where I’d like to calm down and focus on arts and good conversation and being a better person; while the state of the world calls for people with spines more than ever.

And voting for people that will make everyone’s life hell and ensure that no one else will ever get to experience the quality of life that they did.

This is not what I voted for

“I voted for other people to suffer, and now I’m suffering. Is there no fairness in this world?”

Either that, or:

“When Donald Trump mentioned what a fine man Hannibal Lecter is before shuffling around to the YMCA, my brain registered that as him telling me everything that I wanted to hear because I’m a delusional psychopath with no grip on reality that thinks the world revolves around me.”

Captain Planet’s enemies are now running the world and openly dismantling environmental protections like it’s a matter of pride to them. And half the people that grew up watching Captain Planet voted them in.

That’s one of the infuriating things about these people. They’ll just make up BS that makes Trump seem reasonable. Trump does this English only thing, and now suddenly non-english truck drivers causing accidents is a thing, something that’s been a problem all along and thank Jesus he’s finally fixing it. Even though this was never actually a real issue that anyone even imagined before today.

group of 100 men came over immediately and encircled me

Wow check out these alpha chads over here. How brave and heroic of them to mob assault an individual woman for having a scarf on her face. What fine people to share a society with.

Yeah, I read this first thing in the morning and replied before even checking what community it is. Probably should’ve deleted this but also, maybe it’s a good discussion to have around here.

I know that you’re right but it just feels hopeless. You say that I should have empathy but honestly what I worry about the most is that the people we’re talking about here have no empathy of their own. Because I can’t help but wonder, don’t these kids have mothers and sisters that they look at and at least feel a little bit bad about the circles they spend time in and the ideology they believe in? It’s a strange mix of disgust and despair that I feel about this. Because I feel like trying to appeal to the good nature of mother’s sons that listen to rapists in the first place is a lost cause.

But I could just be bitter. And facing my own gender wars internally and projecting that. I’ve actually been trying to stay away from these conversations because I’m not sure if I can be anything but angry at this point.

I don’t care what excuses you want to pull out of your ass about the absolute horror for young men growing up in a world where women aren’t just sex objects and kitchen appliances. If you support and cling to the words of a known sex trafficker and rapist like Andrew Tate, you are a complete and utter piece of shit. And any pathetic excuse about loneliness or feeling left behind goes right out the window there. It’s like men are on a mission to reinforce and prove all of the negative stereotypes right. Fuck these pieces of shit, I wouldn’t waste my piss on them if they were burning alive.

Ah fuck is Katy Perry actually cool?

Edit: didn’t think I’d need to indicate that I was speaking in jest but /s

Before they mention any backwards conservative bigot views, or throw their trash out the window of a moving a car, or treat minimum wage staff like dirt, I’m afraid to say that a big red flag for me personally is being religious.

And it’s not just because christians seem to be leading the charge in supporting right wing piece of shit politicians. It’s not just because they have looked the other way for decades while priests molest kids but treat drag queens reading books in a public library as the ultimate sin.

It’s from a lifetime of these people telling me that all the cartoons I enjoyed and music I listened to was going to send me to hell. It’s from believing in the first place that anyone different from you deserves to literally burn for eternity and not seeing a problem with that. It’s because of every christian that ever told me that only humans have souls and that other animals are just meat robots to use and abuse. It’s because of my reborn christian hostel master that used to go on long lectures about how KISS stands for Kids In Satan’s Service. And all of the other super racist, super christian piece of shit teachers in that school. It’s because of every christian that I have eaten a meal with that insists on holding hands and saying grace without once asking or checking what my beliefs are, or even giving a shit.

I have a lifelong suspicion and distrust of religious people and nothing that has been happening in the world socio-politically in the last decade has improved that suspicion, in fact it’s just made it worse.

So even if you claim to be a 'left wing christian" (like fucking for virginity) or try to tell me that most christians are decent people, all of the evidence says otherwise and tells me that christians are dogmatic and unempathetic and will support dogmatic and unempathetic leaders the first chance they get. And that makes us enemies.

The same goes for all monotheistic religions but a single out christianity here based on my own life experience.

Cringe is teenagers and 20 somethings hero worshipping Joe Rogan and supporting right wing christian nationalists. Lamest fucking generation around. Even boomers had a hippie phase before becoming old and bitter. Gen Z just skipped that and went straight to the conformist bootlicker phase.

“Dear Republicans. When I voted to have people’s rights stripped away and their lives ruined, I didn’t think it included me!”

Eat shit, asshole.

I think Blåhaj handled this person well over all. Even if Drag wad just 100% troll, drag wasn’t being fed in Blåhaj and had to go elsewhere. But also there was always the chance that drag is just someone on a journey or with things to sort out. Some people have completely given up on being any gender and treat it like a joke in an almost nihilistic way. But clearly there’s a line between that and an actual troll.

Either way, I wouldn’t say that it’s standard heterosexual cisgender behaviour to go as far as Drag did just for the lulz. So maybe one of these days, Drag will have an awakening and remember how no one in the community either fed drag or shunned drag when drag was confused and behaving badly.