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Cake day: November 1st, 2023

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  • It wasn’t specifically for me, so it only sort of applies.

    My local book club does a holiday party for our December gathering every year. We do a fun quiz on book-club related things and do a “steal the gift” exchange but with wrapped books.

    I fully admit I hate the “steal the gift” things anyway, I don’t like stealing the gifts, I always get skunked even when the stakes are low, and I just never enjoy it. But I participate every year because it’s simple and would be weird to be the only one not participating.

    It can be any book- a used one you found, one from your shelf, one you hated, etc. I DESPISE the “one you hated” part. Why would you do that to us? We’re supposed to be at least book club friends if not actual friends outside of this club.

    So one year I got One Thousand White Women by Jim Fergus, one we’d read in the group.
    The book we all collectively despised. The one we said we were against book burning, but might just have to make an exception for.

    But it was soooo freaking “funny” to put that in the blind grab bag for the steal the gift exchange.

    I’m not freaking laughing.

    Of course no one stole that piece of garbage from me, so I was stuck with it for the entire game and didn’t get any second chances.

    That was the year I stopped trying at all when selecting my book for the exchange. Previously I’d put a lot o f thought into it and had my selection get lukewarm at best reactions, but this was the icing on the cake, I was done. And it’s coming up again in a few weeks. I half put thought in to mine. A book in my give away pile already, but it’s a collection of Victorian ghost stories. The Victorian tradition of telling ghost stories at Christmas, so it fits. But they’re all hit or miss on old stuff, so I fully expect it to be a lukewarm at best reception. Oh well. I liked it, just won’t read it again, hence why it’s in my giveaway pile. It’s going to be out of my house, which is the goal, regardless, so I’m satisfied.




  • A couple pages in. It was An Anonymous Girl by Greer Hendricks. I nearly rage-quit on page one, but I forced myself to keep going for a bit longer. Very quickly I realized it wasn’t going to get better and I should have probably just rage-quit on that first page.

    What specifically did it (the first time) was a paragraph about people who did bad things, but what if they did those bad things because of -insert stupid reason here-. The one that did it specifically was basically “maybe the man cheated on his wife because she was frigid and didn’t put out”.

    Not only were the other excuses poor and failed to apply any personal responsibility for one’s actions, but that one? Ugh, made my skin crawl.

    It was a selection in my local book club, and, surprisingly, that didn’t bug anyone else (all women). Yet I can guarantee you if that was real life e or even another book they didn’t love otherwise, it would have been a big deal. The inconsistently of that situation also bothered me, but that has nothing to do with the book.





  • One Thousand White Women: The Journals of May Dodd by Jim Fergus - We read this in my local book club and all shredded it. Written by a man who’s maybe never met a woman let alone been intimate with one, and wrote a story from a woman’s point of view. We don’t support burning books, but we strongly considered making an exception for this one.

    The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver - I’ve mostly pushed it from my mind, but I still shutter when I think about it.

    Go Ask Alice by Beatrice Sparks - It’s so blatantly fake and propaganda, not even done well.

    Eat, Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert - Pretentious, obnoxious, stupid.

    Pillars of the Earth by Ken Follett - Another I’ve mostly pushed from my mind but ugh, I hated every second. I think I finished out of spite.

    Sisterhood Everlasting by Ann Bradshares - You had a perfectly good ending with book four and you had to go and cash-grab and ruin it all and ruin the characters you’d done so well with.

    The Language of Flowers by Vanessa Diffenbaugh - Another local book club read, another we don’t support burning books but we might make an exception for this one. The main character was insufferable, among other things.

    Home Front by Kristin Hannah - Another local book club read, the second and final strike for the author. She’s banned from further selections in our book club (since that’s been misread in the past- we don’t care what you read outside of book club, but this author will never be a book club selection again). The first offense was Night Road. Never again.

    Wild by Cheryl Strayed - Another local book club read, mixed reviews with no one loving it but not all hating or disliking it. Main was insufferable, made the same stupid decisions over and over again. Needed to be bailed out constantly and never learned. All major pet peeves of mine.

    Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman - Another local book club read, mostly positive responses except for me (not uncommon). The main character was god awful. You don’t get to be a complete asshole and treat others poorly and look down on them because you have issues. Also I saw the ending coming a mile away.

    Harry Potter and the Cursed Child “by” J.K. Rowling - This one speaks for itself.

    Lincoln in the Bardo by George Saunders - No, I didn’t just “not get it.” It was pretentious and awful and anyone who tells me “I just didn’t get it.” probably didn’t get it themselves but wants to sound smart and elevated. That argument is such BS anyway.

    And since there’s a bunch of “local book club picks” on here- why do I keep going back? Well, I’ve been in it for over ten years now. I like most of the members, friends with a few outside of it, and I read books I’d never pick up otherwise.

    I’ll gladly take ten or more 1 star or 0 star reads to find that one 5 star read I’d never have found otherwise. I’ve found a couple of amazing books, including my second favorite book ever, Tell the Wolves I’m Home by Carol Rifka Brunt, which I wouldn’t have likely found without it being a book club pick.

    Even if we don’t like the books, or we’re mixed, our conversations are almost always great and the discussions are interesting and intellectual. We can respect differing opinions and see why someone liked i t or someone didn’t, even if we don’t think the same, because they’ve spoken up and said why.



  • I love JP, too! Book and movie. Saw the movie first, and I was only seven, but shortly after I discovered it at the library and was just so excited to have more of it. I’m of the opinion the book and movie are equals. Different, but books are different than movies, it’s just the nature of the different mediums. Scott Brick does the audiobook version and it’s very good.

    Timeline and Dragon Teeth are other favorites of his. Lost World was decent. Eaters of the Dead was very different but I did like it. I hated Sphere, but it’s super popular, so maybe you’ll like it too.