I moved to a particular country purely for studying reasons - 3 year long bachelor. I am currently on my last year which means I will be going back home very soon. As you can tell, I absolutely hate this country. Coming back here after the summer (from my home country) I was full of energy, wanting to make the best out of this last year. However, it has only been 3 months now and I can feel myself unraveling. All I want to do is sleep so that the day of departure comes faster. The first month or two I was really pushing to make the best out of my situation, was very productive and time seemed to pass very fast. But now, it feels as though so much time is still left and I feel as though I just won’t be able to manage and to hold on any longer…
How do I cope with this?
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Are you from India?
WTF? Are you studying in North Korea?
No, NL.
On the positive side - a) you are in your last year and b) you know what you DON’T want. I have seen expats that invest so much time and emotion into a country that they sort of force themselves to continue there even though they’d likely be happier back in their own country or at least somewhere else.
Which country ?
NL
I can very much relate to what you’re experiencing, I am in the same boat and it’s tough. What helps me is knowing I am on the finish line and I have a date when I am free. It also helps to have a purpose of why I am doing this to myself, what are my gains. But yes, you don’t have to be in north korea to not enjoy the country, sometimes it’s just a giant cultural mismatch
I already knew it was the Netherlands before looking at the profile 😅
The Netherlands is an energy vampire, that drains your willingness to live
Hahaah how did you know? 😂
Why/how?
Not everyone is cut out to live other countries. Especially if you compare every aspect of life to your own country. If you move abroad it’s easier to adapt if you embrace the local way of living, the good but also the bad like everybody else in that country. Anyway good luck to you and hope you make it the last couple of months.
I think a happy person could have a good time anywhere. I lived in the DRC and enjoyed it. It’s about the connections you make & the appreciating the small things in life. If you’re this miserable in the Netherlands I honestly think it might be an excuse for something deeper? Worth reaching out to your GP as you might be depressed and not realise it? Not trying to sound condescending just worth looking at what it is that’s making you so miserable!
You said it yourself, you will be going home very soon. Keep a mind set of “not much longer” “soon i never have to set foot in this country again”
Since you know for sure you want to leave, you can simply relax and just focus your exams with a decent grade. And find ways to have fun by yourself
aw come on cant be that bad
I’m living in NL and its known for shit weather, I try to take comfort in dimly lit brown bars and soothing sounds of the wind :) is it worse than Dutch weather lol?
here are some tips when I was struggling with life
- go to gym!!! walk 7.5k every day!!! eat good!!! drink more water!!!
- TAKE VITAMIN D IF YOU ARE ACCUSTOMED TO SUN AND IF ITS NOT A SUN-FRIENDLY COUNTRY
- pick up some freelance work, like walking the dogs, babysitting, proper work (horeca etc). if you can afford it ensure it takes around 10-20 hours and not more. responsibility is good!
- change your routine, wake up early, go to bed earlier (goes hand to hand with gym)
dont waste your days - do stuff! :)
Haha, I am in NL too 😂 trust me, it’s not the weather since I come from a place with a objectively „worse” one, albeit with no „weather changing from sun to rain every 5 minutes” and an actual winter.
Normally people should be able to tolerate place they dislike, especially if it is temporary. ( assuming you are not being abused, threatened, bullied, starved)
If you truly can’t overcome being there, it is a sign of desperation and I recommend seeing someone who is more qualified.