I’m just a bit heartbroken and could do with some support.

My partner and I met in a country that we both are not from (I’ve been here for most of my life, but it is notoriously difficult to get permanent residency here so I am on a work visa). We’ve been dating for a year and he’s everything I’ve wanted, and more.

We’ve had a couple of difficult conversations over the last few days and have realised that there’s no way to make this relationship work. I want to move to a country that he has no interest in going to, and vice versa.

I don’t know how to deal with the pain of knowing that this was the right person, just the wrong time. On top of that, is this my fate as an expat? Should I only date once I know where I want to “settle down”, so to speak?

  • Toxigen18@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    I met my current wife in the Netherlands, I was working there and she came with a project. I’m from Romania, she is from Mexico. For 2 years I wasn’t in “the headspace” because I didn’t see it happening from a logistically, birocratic way. During these 2 years she visited me every time she caught a project in Europe and until she took a month of holiday to spend it with me I didn’t believe we had a really good chance for a long term relationship. But when I saw the effort she is making I moved to Mexico for her and we started building a life. We opened several businesses together and we help each other grow and we plan to save some money and buy a house in Europe