I’m just a bit heartbroken and could do with some support.

My partner and I met in a country that we both are not from (I’ve been here for most of my life, but it is notoriously difficult to get permanent residency here so I am on a work visa). We’ve been dating for a year and he’s everything I’ve wanted, and more.

We’ve had a couple of difficult conversations over the last few days and have realised that there’s no way to make this relationship work. I want to move to a country that he has no interest in going to, and vice versa.

I don’t know how to deal with the pain of knowing that this was the right person, just the wrong time. On top of that, is this my fate as an expat? Should I only date once I know where I want to “settle down”, so to speak?

  • VoyagerVII@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    I want to add my reassurance: if he’s not in a place to be thinking of your future together, you need to be thinking of your future alone. Kudos for recognizing that – it’s one of the hardest things to make yourself do, especially if the relationship otherwise feels as if it’s going well at the time. But if you’re strong enough to have made this decision, you’re strong enough to get through the painful time that follows.

    And when you’ve done that, you’ll be in exactly the place where you actually want to live, without having to compromise on it.

    Good luck!