I know plenty of people that do hook up culture and are happy. Anecdotes don’t really hold much weight in the grand scheme of things.

The problem from that comes mainly in if people make that their entire goal or identity, and not something to do for fun. It’s the drinking for fun vs alcoholic argument. One is arguably alright, the other is a serious issue.

It’s those people who don’t view it as good fun (then usually fail and blame the other side like incels and radfems do) and try to make it their entire identity of means of connection, which is just sad.