“I like how it was before the drama” = “this is making me uncomfortable because either you’re right to be worried, or because I’m not mature or invested enough to do something about the situation”

Looking back at my many failed relationships, the only thing I would change is that I’d have left sooner. Love comes and goes and comes again with someone else. But working hard to get someone to love you and treat you the right way isn’t worth it.

For comparison, when I first met my now wife, we lived hours apart but were on the phone every day and often into the night. I didn’t need to pull her in.