What’s something about sex you think is pointless or overrated?

I’ll start with shower sex. Showers are great for foreplay, or for aftercare, but actual sex in the shower? I’m not a massive fan

How about you?

  • RepressedLemmyUser@fedinsfw.app
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    5 days ago

    1: Furries are actually really fucking hot. You can’t see who or what you are fucking under the costume, and that is incredibly hot for some reason.

    2: One night stands are unfun, because people just want to get rid of their urges like animals, as soon as possible. Aftercare is rare, no bonding whatsoever. The fun is in making the giving the other person the time of their life, speaking of which:

    3: I prefer spending quite a bit of time lavishing the other person first. I can get myself off easily at any time, I prefer seeing what makes the other person squirm first, and teasing them a bit. Fucking for an orgasm should come only after a while of this.

  • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 🇮 @pawb.social
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    10 days ago

    A little sweat smells hella fuckin’ good. Like, after a hard day outside don’t immediately hop in the shower. Different story if you haven’t cleaned a single part of your body for 3 days. That’s the difference between being musky and being stinky.

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    10 days ago

    Onlyfans has gotten out of hand. Generally I have nothing against camgirls or even prostitution. You want to profit from degeneracy, more power to you. But Onlyfans has reached a point where it has completely changed the landscape of short and long-form content on mostly SFW platforms. It has reached the point where any field where women can present themselves in a positive and safe manner has been overtaken by balant self promotion of of Onlyfans content creators. Everything from comedy to music. It seems the meta is to dress in an ridiculously skimpy outfit and “e-girl/goth” makeup and put in the lowest effort to make provactive videos to farm engagement and funnel people to you NSFW content. The problem is that it completely dilutes and overshadows the actual effort women put into their passion.

    Sure you can invest 1000s of dollars and 100s of hours to make a detailed cosplay, or you can put on a yellow microbikini and paint red circles on your cheeks and tell people you’re Pikachu and get 100x more views and an influx of paying customers. Why learn classic piano when you can play 4 chords on a guitar in a miniskirt? Why upload a well acted funny skit if you can read a single dad joke in a see-through dress?

    It has gotten so bad that whenever you see a woman trying to be mildly entertaining on the internet, you can just type in their name into Google and see her fully naked.

    Is a viscous cycle of idiots paying for that content and women being incentivised to reach bigger and bigger audiences to outpace the emotional dept of being a NSFW content creator puts you in.

    You want to jack of to goth mommies and instagram bimbos, then keep that shit of non-porn platforms.

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      10 days ago

      Is it that OF has ruined content platforms? Or is it that the only way for people to make money by making content is by doing OF?

      IMO there is a societal problem being reflected there.

  • ayawnymouse@fedinsfw.app
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    10 days ago

    I’ve never understood the appeal of anal. It’s a big turnoff to me. If I could filter the entire Internet of one thing so I (and only I) never had to see it again, that’s what I’d pick.

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    10 days ago

    I’m really into femdom but pegging doesn’t interest me at all. I don’t want anything up my ass. I just want to be forced to keep fucking through my refractory period.

  • ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world
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    10 days ago

    Sex, and romantic relationships, are a lot more important than people realize. Unless you’re some variation of asexual/aromantic, it’s a need, just not one that followed by physical issues or even death upon failure of satisfying it. Dismissing them as not important or completely interchangeable with regular friendships/hobbies is dangerous, and leaves an opening for grifters.

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      10 days ago

      it’s a need, just not one that followed by physical issues or even death upon failure of satisfying it

      What? Just no… Yes feeling undesirable can seriously hurt one’s self-esteem but at non point can it lead to physical issues.

    • CuriousCassie@fedinsfw.app
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      9 days ago

      Does that mean missionary is like, cool in a way now or something? Or does it mean missionary is weird/looked down on? Cause I’ve gotten a lot of weird looks for saying I like missionary over the years.

      • MrBackwardsCap@fedinsfw.appOP
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        8 days ago

        Why would you get weird looks for that? There’s so many things you can do with missionary, it’s a very versatile position when done properly 🤷🏻‍♂️ People are strange, you do you, Miss C

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          It’s usually more of “wow, that’s so boring compared to all your other options” kind of response. I did have one guy try to tell me that meant I was just bad at sex and that he’d show me how to have good sex while he “fucked the gay out of me”. Needless to say, that never happened and I never spoke too him again.

          • MrBackwardsCap@fedinsfw.appOP
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            8 days ago

            What. A. Knobhead. I hope he never gets to have sex again. Missionary, there’s full access to the tits and nipples, throat, eye contact, you can push the legs to the shoulders to get really deep, you can do anal like that. It can be nice and slow, close and romantic, or it can be rough and desperate and passionate. Missionary can be more than great!

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    10 days ago

    Anal lovers need to calm down and just admit they have a poop fetish. It’s coprophagia plain and clear.

    The fetishizing of assholes to the extent Lemmy users CONSTANTLY talk about anal, eating assholes, looking at a gross grody looking fat people’s dark greasy hemorrhoids like it’s a sexy selfie… serious you all need to cool it. You basically eat shit and love it, we get it. It’s gross. Please, there’s no value in sharing to the world how shitty you are.

    Saying you love looking at an asshole, digging into it, eating it… just stop calling it that and own up to the fact that you’re shitty sounding, likely full of shit smell, and you like it. You should be shit on as much as you praise it, that’s clearly who you are. But really, you’re a minority and no one cares to hear about shit as much as you love shit.

    Edit: I clearly struck a shit covered nerve. No one responding but clearly they vote with their feces.

    Must be a lot of shit eating folks there Randers… they must feel triggered getting called out for the shit in their teeth.

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      10 days ago

      Locking this comment chain, and consider this a warning. Please do try to be respectful and considerate of others.

      The purpose of this comm is to be able to have open conversations regarding NSFW topics, not shit-talking (hah) one another.

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      10 days ago

      Wow, this is definitely a hot take. You might need to look into getting a Japanese-style bidet.

      And for the record, if there’s any shit, rimming is off the table.

      • Beetschnapps@lemmy.world
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        10 days ago

        Totally a hot take! You’re assuming you’re going to avoid the very source of shit while burying your face in it then saying shits presence is off the table?

        Is it so crazy to say obsessions out-weigh common sense if you’re face first with an asshole while pretending you don’t want a bunch of shit???

        You’re pretending of common sense over shitting assholes is weird…

        Like having a sexual obsession is one thing, but obsessing over a shit portal where porn stars specifically say you should expect shit to show up…

        Yea everyone else has the hot take… frankly I’d take the non-hot take if it means less feces.

      • Beetschnapps@lemmy.world
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        10 days ago

        “ looking at a gross grody looking fat people’s dark greasy hemorrhoids like it’s a sexy selfie…”

        Define the hard take there… would you like a few choice photos?

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        10 days ago

        If any shit is present…

        Do you not understand how fucking stupid you sound?

        If any shit is present? Bitch you’re face is deep in the source of it all moron! What the fuck do you expect to be present when you shove your face into an asshole???

        • imadethis@fedinsfw.app
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          10 days ago

          Eh, the mouth is the fount of vomit, but I bet you don’t mind kissing it. If you clean down there, you shouldn’t be encountering shit during the act. As a fellow ‘not anal lover,’ I can assure you, it still feels good to the other party. Use a dental dam, douche before sex, and encourage them to use a butt plug during vaginal sex (because both being filled is so much better).