Sure, whats your plans for this weekend? Got any hobbies to occupy your time?
EDIT: just read your other post that has detail on the break up. I am sorry that you are hurt. It sounds like your ex was a jerk and you are better off without them. I know that doesn’t help you stop hurting now.
Ohk nice…Honestly, I don’t really have any plans. I’ve just been crying almost every day and missing my ex, who emotionally cheated on me. I’m still struggling to cope with everything.
I just read your other post about his cheating, I am sorry you are going thru this. It honestly sounds like he was already pretty bad for your mental health, moving between wanting to break up and also talk about marriage and family. Unfortunately you aren’t ever going to get the answer to why he was swinging between these things while also cheating on you. Even if you did sit down and ask him and force him to answer, its not going to be the thing that makes everything ok, only time can do that.
I don’t really have any plans right now, to be honest. He said I had trust issues and was emotionally dependent on him, but he threatened to break up with me four times. Every time he became distant, I got scared that he would leave again, so I kept questioning his commitment. I know I became anxious and needed reassurance, but I feel like those repeated threats contributed to that fear, too.
Things got worse when I came across his ChatGPT history and found him asking how to impress girls. I also found out he had said he urgently needed … because his friends regularly brought girls over to have fun in the next room. It completely shattered my trust. I was genuinely committed to him, while I was discovering things that made me question whether we wanted the same kind of relationship. Now he blames my trust issues and emotional dependence, and I’m struggling to make sense of everything.
Yes He even said things like my girlfriend is innocent and cute, but lately I haven’t been feeling that much love for her. I feel more like her counsellor whenever she’s sad because she’s an emotional person. And meanwhile, he was talking about how he bought premium on a dating app and how to talk to other girls.
He can try to shift the blame how ever he wants, the bottom line is he did not want to be in this relationship, that is not your fault. And you also should not think that changing yourself some how could have saved this relationship in anyway.
I know it feels hollow now but its better that you know his true feelings, because I promise you feeling lonely while you are in a relationship is mountains more painful that feeling lonely while you are single. When you feel lonely in a relationship is tinged with hopelessness and worthlessness because you are contently questioning why the person you love doesn’t love you, while you are making moves to try to fix it, never knowing they already forgot about you.
Really, asking how to impress girls while you have a girlfriend is already super cringey and he asked Chatgpt? LOL, I hope you can laugh about this later. I’ll give you some great but slightly sexist advise that was given to me by a lady older than my grandmother at the time. “Never run after a man or a bus, there will be another along in 15 mins.”
Sure, whats your plans for this weekend? Got any hobbies to occupy your time?
EDIT: just read your other post that has detail on the break up. I am sorry that you are hurt. It sounds like your ex was a jerk and you are better off without them. I know that doesn’t help you stop hurting now.
Ohk nice…Honestly, I don’t really have any plans. I’ve just been crying almost every day and missing my ex, who emotionally cheated on me. I’m still struggling to cope with everything.
I just read your other post about his cheating, I am sorry you are going thru this. It honestly sounds like he was already pretty bad for your mental health, moving between wanting to break up and also talk about marriage and family. Unfortunately you aren’t ever going to get the answer to why he was swinging between these things while also cheating on you. Even if you did sit down and ask him and force him to answer, its not going to be the thing that makes everything ok, only time can do that.
I don’t really have any plans right now, to be honest. He said I had trust issues and was emotionally dependent on him, but he threatened to break up with me four times. Every time he became distant, I got scared that he would leave again, so I kept questioning his commitment. I know I became anxious and needed reassurance, but I feel like those repeated threats contributed to that fear, too.
Things got worse when I came across his ChatGPT history and found him asking how to impress girls. I also found out he had said he urgently needed … because his friends regularly brought girls over to have fun in the next room. It completely shattered my trust. I was genuinely committed to him, while I was discovering things that made me question whether we wanted the same kind of relationship. Now he blames my trust issues and emotional dependence, and I’m struggling to make sense of everything.
eww, he uses ai? you can do so much better.
Yes He even said things like my girlfriend is innocent and cute, but lately I haven’t been feeling that much love for her. I feel more like her counsellor whenever she’s sad because she’s an emotional person. And meanwhile, he was talking about how he bought premium on a dating app and how to talk to other girls.
sounds like you’re already better off.
He can try to shift the blame how ever he wants, the bottom line is he did not want to be in this relationship, that is not your fault. And you also should not think that changing yourself some how could have saved this relationship in anyway.
I know it feels hollow now but its better that you know his true feelings, because I promise you feeling lonely while you are in a relationship is mountains more painful that feeling lonely while you are single. When you feel lonely in a relationship is tinged with hopelessness and worthlessness because you are contently questioning why the person you love doesn’t love you, while you are making moves to try to fix it, never knowing they already forgot about you.
Really, asking how to impress girls while you have a girlfriend is already super cringey and he asked Chatgpt? LOL, I hope you can laugh about this later. I’ll give you some great but slightly sexist advise that was given to me by a lady older than my grandmother at the time. “Never run after a man or a bus, there will be another along in 15 mins.”
Yrs u r right…Thank you for taking the time to explain things to me and listen to my story