Some days, i feel happy, and other days i feel completely lost. I miss the bubbly innocent version of myself who could enjoy little things without overthinking everything. This breakup has changed me in ways I never expected. I don’t understand why I struggle to feel genuinely happy why crowded places make me anxious or why I sometimes feel like I’ll never heal from this. Is it normal to feel this way after a painful breakup.

P.s.- emotional cheating basically led to our breakup and my low self esteem is making it harder to let go of the ideal version of him i had in my mind before i found out about everything.

Today is 38th day of no contact

  • LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.worldEnglish
    6·
    13 days ago

    Yes you will. Also you won’t notice you have changed like we all see ourselves at 9 the same as 16. You can claim happiness and grow, hell a child rapist can be in the highest position in the world, so no matter what mistake you made you can make a recovery. If you need to yap blow up my inbox and I’ll do my best to always give an ear if you don’t have one. If you have someone else I’d advise using it, talking to someone and being honest may help you out of feeling “lost”. Your best friend you haven’t talked to in a couple years, they probably still care about you and they might be that shoulder. If you don’t know any or what not, just ping me and I promise I’ll read it and do what I can. But I’m just another lost soul hoping we all help each other and do it well

    • Rush@thelemmy.clubOPEnglish
      4·
      13 days ago

      Thank you, honestly. it means a lot that you’re willing to listen without judging me. i’m still trying to figure things out and find myself again, but having someone remind me that i’ll be okay someday really helps.

      • LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        13 days ago

        You’re fine, do you want to talk about what your worried about, or just know others care. Promise you others out there will always care, because there are fools like me who care about everyone, lol. If you want to say more here go ahead, if it’s to personal like I said just ping me, or just talk broadly about how you can identify the friend you may already have that you are forgetting