There is indeed “so much to unpack and learn from an exchange like this.” Unfortunately I don’t think she’s going to learn it.
I guess that depends on whether or not those questions at the end are rhetorical.
Yeah it really seems like her takeaway isn’t “My husband is a loser for not constantly getting certs” but rather “Maybe my drive to get these certs is a symptom of insecurity”.
Her company sells professional certifications.
It’s an ad, like everything in LinkedIn, there is no self awareness.
She seems to be asking an honest question. I’m like her husband, never been with a woman like her, but those are fair questions to throw out there.
External validation is a hell of a drug.
Right? I’m reading this going, “Why does she need a reward attached every time she learns things? Isn’t growing as a human and learning new skills exciting enough in itself? It sounds like she wants external validation more than she wants to improve as a person.”
How dare he be content with his life.
Most of the post is about her, and how she wants to be like him.
That’s the read I got from it too. She asks what’s keeping her from being content with life without conventional markers of accomplishment. I don’t think she says outright that she wants to be like her husband, but the point she’s making is that women in tech feel more driven to accomplish things as a way to prove themselves in the industry while men don’t feel that same pressure or not to the same extent.
Right? Seems like she’s missing that not all career accomplishments need to be some form of external validation.
Holy shit I didn’t read it properly. Yes indeed I believe that’s what she’s trying to say. She wants to be content like her husband.
Everyone! She is saying that she is jealous that her husband is content and she is trying so hard and unhappy. She isn’t shaming her husband. She is questioning herself.
No, she isn’t. It is an ad for certifications. Stop being duped by these kinds of very basic ad posts, because this kind of crap keeps being created because people like you keep falling for it.
So it is an ad for certifications that makes me feel sad for people who chase after them?
now I really wanna get the certificates…
If you honestly think this isn’t humblebragging, you need to reevaluate your position in life. Imagine if this was a man posting about his wife…
From linkedin, we can always assume it is humblebragging. But her line makes me wonder: “Specifically - Whats standing in the way of my ability to be content without conventional markers of accomplishment?” It could be the classic “oh i there is so much i have to learn because i have so much linkedin-self-awareness” Tartas has a point. She isnt shaming her husband.
Her real mistake is clearly being in cybersecurity. Those people seem to live and breath certifications.
Well, you can’t exactly say I hacked into company A, B, and C once in a job interview.
Imagine how planely misogynistic this would sound if a male posted this about his spouse.
Why would it be sexism in either direction in a society that expects both sexes to work and endlessly chase increased value production for their owners?
I think you’re projecting you own gender assumptions into this simple rant from a corporate goon that works for a company that sells professional certifications.
Aren’t most people like the husband though? Most people don’t bother with certs or courses and are perfectly happy that way.
Would you think of a colleague, direct report, manager, friend, or spouse differently for not doing so?
Of course not? Life is not a race and most of people’s accomplishments are never recognised in any kind of formal way, if at all.
I’d certainly think differently, in a markedly negative way, of someone who behaved like this though
I looked her up and scrolled through 4 months of post history. I might have missed it but I couldn’t find it. I wonder if she deleted it. I would’ve loved to see the comments.
She ended up having to re-clarify what is already said in the post, that the post is about her own insecurities with achieving traditional markers of success. She doesn’t understand what drives her to not be able to stop and considers it her problem.
Reading is hard.
man, i’ve seen people miss information that appeared in second 5 of a 20 second video, and instead of watching again but this time also paying attention, they whine in the comments that the information was missing… strongly considering purchasing crayons to draw things out instead of saying them, one more conversation with someone with no reading comprehension and i might lose it
Expecting the general masses to read on the internet is where the mistake lies. People want to react and to feel outrage. That’s it. No one even cares if the thing is real.
You only have to work at a restaurant with a “Please Wait to be Seated” sign to realize that nobody reads. Or if they read it, they don’t internalize it.
I put that sign in the way so people had to shimmy around it and they still did. Baffling…
I’m certain I’ve seen this screenshot before, many months ago. Its a re-post, bordering on copy-pasta for this community.
A divorce is a certification, isn’t it?
Wow hacker in heels definitely has all the tell-tale signs of a bullshit website.
Someone is huffing their own farts.
Nobody crafts such delicate chemical balance in fart gas as me. I huff it because you are just not worthy of my biochemical fumes
Are you the horror show from the post?
Is there a single LinkedIn influencer who ISNT a CEO?
What?
Game vs metagame. Are you doing your job or collecting signifiers of doing the job?
Gotta catch 'em all!
“Documentary Features” … Like as in being featured in a documentary about something? Or does she mean something else? The larger discussion aside, of all the things she lists, surely that one isn’t even remotely “common”.
