Hi everyone, I’ve been in the D/s and kink lifestyles for over 25 years now, both online and f2f. I’ve lived through Yahoo Messenger, IRC, CollarMe, CollarSpace, the birth of Fetlife, Kik, Reddit, etc etc etc.
I’m trying to get back into online D/s, and Reddit seems to be an absolute bonfire, so I thought I’d check out Lemmy. The community here looks lovely, but the specific BDSMPersonals community looks like it hasn’t been active for 6+ months.
Does anyone have any suggestions of where people gather for these purposes these days?
Fetlife is still very active over here. Of course the real life events are the most important.
I left Fetlife about 12-15 years ago… I found it a really uncomfortable space. Of course it absolutely might have changed and shifted by now.
Probably mostly depends on your local community. I early on made the decision to only friend people I’ve met in real life.
Women probably still have it bad until they blocked half the site.
As a trans guy, it also sucks. I put in every single posting “yo I am a dude, I am a hairy man with a beard” but still I get low effort messages from straight guys.
I think Fet depends on area, and how toxic your local dungeon scene is….