• Baku@aussie.zone
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    4 months ago

    There’s a bunch of jumpy Bois in front of my hotel!

    They look kinda like rocks or something, but nah, they’re all jumpies!

    The train trip included a fancy dinner and drinks with the train crew. Obviously I can’t drink [:(], so I just had a bottle of Pepsi Max to look the part. I also had to learn how to do fancy eating. Dinner and meal manners aren’t something I’ve ever had to use before, so I never learnt them. But I feel under qualified to eat dinner now to be honest. I’ve never put a napkin thing in my lap, or wiped my face with a black cloth, or had 3 different knives + 3 different forks + 2 spoons + 3 glasses before. I was also the only person at my table under 50 (seriously, that’s not a hyperbole), so that makes it harder to know how to act and what to do.

    I mean it was a good experience, and I’m happy that I did it, but there’s so many generational differences that it gets really hard to know what to do or say and how to act. 1 lady was super nice, but the dude next to me shouted at me to not play with my food (there was a flower on my dessert and I was trying to figure out if it was edible or not). It was that sort of formal.

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      4 months ago

      That dude was a dick.

      I am very middle aged and I still remember my first “fancy” dinner… I kept.forgetting how to hold my knife and fork and my mate’s mum leant over and helped. I still feel a bit out of place at fancy dinners. It’s fun to play and try new things though.

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        I was at a foster care house for a while and the foster carer and her son both got really, really, really angry at me for not holding a knife and fork right (I held a knife in my left hand and more like a broomstick despite being right handed), but neither of them wanted to teach me or explain what the go was. I only learnt how to properly hold cutlery and knives when I was 14/15. My previous fanciest dinner would probably have been an RSL, but since those tables aren’t really shared, nobody gives much of a shot how you eat things as long as you’re not obnoxious about it and meet their dress code thing.

        I’ve actually picked up a lot of my manners and social norms from old Australian soap operas (namely prisoner) + stories from my mum. Just generally speaking, I don’t think much beyond basic manners is really a thing in my generation. Even an expensive sit down restaurant doesn’t necessarily mean it’s fancy or will even have a dress code, let alone any concern about manners or over a dozen types of silverware

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            No doubt, but I think I’m mostly set now. I mean I guarantee I’m going to forget everything I learnt tonight, but I have never needed them before so I don’t think it’s likely I’ll need them again any time soon. The only reason I really cared about them is that it was 10 person shared tables with older people, and the innate urge to try and fit in ear overpowering

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      If some random punk on a train who I didn’t know yelled at me not to play with my food I would give them a death stare and a few choice words they would never forget

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        After he yelled at me I decided to just eat it. I think it was intended mostly as decoration, but it didn’t taste like anything so I assume it was intended to be safely edible. I was the only person that are it at my table though

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      Ignore the guy, he had very bad manners. The best good manners are a smile, please and thank you and a kind heart like greeeg’s friend’s mum.

      And that train trip looks really awesome, so jelly. 🥰🚂🦘

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        That was something that stuck out to me. Nobody was even really acknowledging the waiters at all, and I was the only person saying thank you to them each time they brought food and took plates and drinks and stuff. The only time I could justify not thanking them is if I was in a conversation, but even then I’d at least acknowledge them with a head nod, or duck to the side to make it easier for them to get the plates