• Ton the Supermassive@lemm.ee
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    Bruh just find a group activity - fuck I don’t know, instead of paying $30 for a beer, take a painting class or something…

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          Studied electronic engineering for two years - the group I went in was like 111 dudes and 7 girls. Some dudes enrolled in electives from faculties like nursery or dentistry because the boys/girls ratio there was inversely proportional as in our faculty.

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        When I was growing up, my dad gave me a hard time because I wasn’t very manly. The funny thing is that all the stuff I like is as manly as things get, in the sense that very few women have any interest in it. Too bad I’m not gay. It’s not PC to say this, but I think I would have been happier if I was.

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          Get a part time job at Hobby Lobby or Michele’s. Those places ooze dating-type single woman vibes. There were many things I needed for various projects that have only been locally available from these stores. I get a ton of looks going in there, and I’m like the most oblivious of dudes for that kind of attention.

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        The local city reddit/discord is gonna have regular hangouts if your city is big enough. That’s been my go-to starting point everytime I move.

        I managed to get an in-person DND group going by visiting the local game store. There’s also the other card / roleplay games available too.

        Depending on your age, there’s also the local college groups. You could join a cycling group, or a running geoup. Hell, the queer group in my town has a first Sunday coffee meetup.

        It’s easy to shut down any suggestions but damn, if all you ever do is naysay shit, then you’re never gonna get anywhere. Do you want to find friends and romantic partners, or do you want to spend your time crapping on online dating?

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          I went to a Reddit meet up in 2012 and never went back. Was way too nerdy for me. I presume that’s changed though as the site grew so much since then

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          The local city reddit/discord is gonna have regular hangouts if your city is big enough.

          The problem with that is you’re going to meet reddit/discord people that way.

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        or something

        You can pick whatever you want. It’s almost like everyone likes something different and there’s no one answer for finding a romantic partner.

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      Church events work fine, too. My buddy and me went to one in a damp basement and it was about 30 people. 100% women. Average age about 22 I guess. All were dancing. They all immediately started staring at us as if we were edible. Within the hour, my buddy met what would soon become his GF, and I was approached by this amazing girl and went on a string of remarkable dates with her.
      The kicker: It was a Christian event, but the girls we hooked up with were Buddhist and atheist, respectively.

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        ikr a lot of people go to Church events for “safer” socializing, even if they only attend the services on Christmas and Easter if that. If you’re Catholic or Orthodox, it’s more like a cultural thing. (this may vary by area. Also it’s not really safer, but your grandmother will say it is.)