Anyone can choose to not have children for any reason whatsoever, “because theyre expensive” is a valid and just reason. You dont get to sit atop a moral pedestal because you think the reason is dumb.
Uh, no. I’m American too and I call bullshit. Since when does “that’s sad” mean the same as “that’s dumb”? Even contextually you can tell what they meant.
Ok so as an American you know that our language changes dramatically every 10 years or even region to region, right? You may not have interpreted what he said the same way that I interpreted it
“that’s sad” usually means literally, “that’s sad”.
How the other person interpreted it (“that’s dumb”) is more of a slang usage.
It’s like, “It’s sad that you would be the kind of person who’d do that”. It’s heard as a personal judgment, and not a judgment about the world or the situation.
One of those…backhanded statements that passive-aggressive people would use to make it sound like they’re judging a situation when they’re actually judging a person.
I don’t think you did anything wrong. If you want to avoid that misunderstanding in the future, you could clarify what about it is sad.
“It’s sad that raising children is seen as prohibitively expensive where you live”. Tons of words, I know. That’s why I’m not blaming you for what you said, lol
But your english is good! I couldnt tell that you didnt speak the language, learning a language just doesnt help people understand cultural nuances. Im trying to learn Japanese and I know im going to get minute details wrong
Anyone can choose to not have children for any reason whatsoever, “because theyre expensive” is a valid and just reason. You dont get to sit atop a moral pedestal because you think the reason is dumb.
I never said that this reason was dumb. I said it was sad. Having children shouldn’t be expensive.
Idk if youre not American but in America “thats sad” can mean the exact same as “thats dumb” so im sorry if theres a culture barrier
Uh, no. I’m American too and I call bullshit. Since when does “that’s sad” mean the same as “that’s dumb”? Even contextually you can tell what they meant.
Ok so as an American you know that our language changes dramatically every 10 years or even region to region, right? You may not have interpreted what he said the same way that I interpreted it
I’m French so it’s not the first time my bad English led to misunderstandings. I apologize too.
“that’s sad” usually means literally, “that’s sad”.
How the other person interpreted it (“that’s dumb”) is more of a slang usage.
It’s like, “It’s sad that you would be the kind of person who’d do that”. It’s heard as a personal judgment, and not a judgment about the world or the situation.
One of those…backhanded statements that passive-aggressive people would use to make it sound like they’re judging a situation when they’re actually judging a person.
I don’t think you did anything wrong. If you want to avoid that misunderstanding in the future, you could clarify what about it is sad.
“It’s sad that raising children is seen as prohibitively expensive where you live”. Tons of words, I know. That’s why I’m not blaming you for what you said, lol
But your english is good! I couldnt tell that you didnt speak the language, learning a language just doesnt help people understand cultural nuances. Im trying to learn Japanese and I know im going to get minute details wrong