Wife-sharing seems to have cuckolding almost as a co-requisite. I seek to share and swap my partner as a Dominant kink, having her do kinky stuff for my entertainment and because it merely crossed my mind. I’m not into humiliation, nor is my partner. Yet it seems difficult to find share/swap dynamics without the cuckold aspect.
For those with swap and share kinks, how many find the humiliation aspect appealing or unappealing? And our particular flavor can’t be all that rare, right? Non-cuckold sharing folk, let’s see a show of hands!
Wouldn’t a swinger club offer what you’re looking for?
Quite probably. Two problems with that. We live on a sailboat far from any lifestyle clubs; this introduces all kinds of logistics complexities in getting to the LS clubs. Sure, that’s an “Us” problem. We’ve gone to LS clubs and meetups, but our experience has very much been that it’s a hookup scene. We tend to be a bit more demisexual and want a connection with our fuckbuddies. Quality over quantity, ya know? We also tried a few LS sites and apps. Those have been attempted scam, photo-collectors, hookup scene, wannabe bulls/cuckqueens (no, I don’t want to humiliate your husband while we fuck), or some combination of those.
We’re willing to hold out to find exactly the dynamic we want and explicitly indicate in our LS profiles.