As a former kid struggling with social skills, I think that would’ve done me some good. It’s easy and convenient to fall into avoidance behaviour, but overcoddling did me no favours.
I was told overcoddling reduces resiliency. Parents always coming in to fix things without letting their kids try to solve it on their own. The kid may fail but the act of trying and figuring out why it failed helps greatly. Most parents just “don’t want to see their kids upset” though.
Take it with a grain of salt, as I don’t have any kids.
The balance to be struck is the golden zone between overcoddling and undersupporting. Kids need help getting “close enough” to figure out the rest on their own, gradually less so as their abilities expand.
In some ways, I was coddled and never learned how to do stuff. In others, I was neglected and had no idea where to begin to solve things, so I just didn’t. Neither is great.
as I don’t have any kids.
You don’t need to have kids to engage with the topic of how best to deal with them. It’s a valuable skill to have when dealing with children, whether your own or someone else’s. In fact, some parents probably should have engaged with the topic more before they squeezed one out. That shit is complicated and I wouldn’t want to just figure it out on the fly.
Kid should be learning social skills at a family party.
As a former kid struggling with social skills, I think that would’ve done me some good. It’s easy and convenient to fall into avoidance behaviour, but overcoddling did me no favours.
I was told overcoddling reduces resiliency. Parents always coming in to fix things without letting their kids try to solve it on their own. The kid may fail but the act of trying and figuring out why it failed helps greatly. Most parents just “don’t want to see their kids upset” though.
Take it with a grain of salt, as I don’t have any kids.
The balance to be struck is the golden zone between overcoddling and undersupporting. Kids need help getting “close enough” to figure out the rest on their own, gradually less so as their abilities expand.
In some ways, I was coddled and never learned how to do stuff. In others, I was neglected and had no idea where to begin to solve things, so I just didn’t. Neither is great.
You don’t need to have kids to engage with the topic of how best to deal with them. It’s a valuable skill to have when dealing with children, whether your own or someone else’s. In fact, some parents probably should have engaged with the topic more before they squeezed one out. That shit is complicated and I wouldn’t want to just figure it out on the fly.