So, I (15F) have a girlfriend Amy (17F). But I’m polyamorous so I’m also talking to another girl Elizabeth (15F). I started talking to Elizabeth after a mutual friend introduced me to her and we’re getting to know each other and find out if we like each other. We also are gonna video call and plan to meet up.
However, Elizabeth is also a trans girl so Dad won’t let me see her if he knows she’s trans, so I have to say she’s a boy (she uses any pronouns, so…) and I will just use her more masculine/gender-neutral name “Alex”.
Also, how do I have sex with her, because I’m curious, without getting pregnant and having my family know what’s going on?
Elizabeth is also really freaky, us being teens and all, and I feel like she’s changing me with her views on sex and all. My mutual friend of hers said she would definitely fuck me if we met up and started dating, and like I said, I am curious. I just don’t understand what happened to turn me from mainly asexual/ace spectrum to really horny for this person.
I will not be impulsive and just get to know her more but DAMN. She (or the picture she sent of me) is also CUTE???
Be REALLYYY careful, dude. Especially since you’re only 15. I’m glad parents will be there so you can at least make sure this isn’t a creep or a 45 year old man coming to kidnap you.
And do make sure she wants to video call and doesn’t act like she’s hiding something. I got groomed(?) by a 33-year-old man who sent pictures of a teen boy and said it was him, so there’s that. Then he blamed me for it and said I guilt-tripped him into dating me and groomed HIM.
Stay safe.
With respect stranger, you are fifteen. I don’t think you were asexual; I think you are a hormonal teenager going through normal hormonal changes.
Practice save sex and use a condom, always.
Yes, to everyone, don’t get too committed to your sexuality one way or another until maybe early 20s. Lots of things change.
Whoa, stay safe, kid, like the other commenter said.
Make sure parents are involved. Could be that this person just seemed to be a “match” for you and you became horny after that. About the pregnant thing, wear condoms, use birth control, do anal or other sex acts that don’t involve penetration.
Or just do casual dates, and she must be a loser if all she wants is sex from you.
“Do anal” is not great advice IMO. I would not trust anyone of that age group to have the maturity or resources to do that safely and properly.
wear condoms, use birth control
This isn’t an either/or, OP, but an and. Two forms of contraceptive, minimum, condom required. It is not worth the risk but you really aren’t coming into this from the right mindset anyway.
Thank you :) Hopefully, I won’t have to worry about that and she’ll just wanna wait till we’re older :D
I do not at all intend any offense, but have you just never heard about condoms or something somehow???
No, we don’t have condoms where I’m from /s
But seriously, I have but my Dad, as someone who obviously had sex, says sometimes they fail and I’ll get pregnant anyway.
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Be careful meeting people you met online. No matter how much you talk to someone online, you don’t really know them as well as you think you do. Please make sure a trusted adult knows where you are, who you’re with, and what you’re doing.
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Condoms are important but they should never be your only method of birth control. Ideally you combine different methods (i.e. condoms + iud or hormonal birth control) so that if one fails, the other will be likely to work.
If your parents won’t let you get birth control, in many countries there are government agencies or NGOs who will provide birth control to you for free.
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The first part is true, the second part is fear mongering. The reported “typical use” is 18% failures over a year of use. This is why it is suggested to pair up birth control methods so it’s condoms AND something else. (There is nothing better than condoms for widely preventing STIs). I had sex with penis havers fairly regularly for ~10 years, had condoms fail 3 times, was stealthed once and have not had a pregnancy scare. That said I am cautious and insistent.
Thanks! I still might wait to avoid parents finding out and also because he wouldn’t let me be alone with her anyway.
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I’ve never done it before but I have done sexual things but only with other AFAB people so this is a bit tricky for me… I’d say like the other commenter, maybe your hormones found them to be a “match” and “picked” that person to be the one you get hot and bothered for.
If you do have sex, like everyone else has been saying, WEAR PROTECTION AND TAKE BIRTH CONTROL.
Make sure this person isn’t a loser either, make sure she stays and doesn’t ghost you after one night or leave you with the baby if you end up getting pregnant.
