I can’t really talk to anyone about this.

As I already wrote, I just feel bad in the cold and darkness. I’ve tried everything but it just doesn’t work.

I live in Germany btw.

I can only live properly for a few months a year, then the whole thing starts over again.

Why southern Italy?

I come from the coast of Croatia, which has a lot of Italian influences, which I have always liked and because it is warm all year round in the south of Italy.

Furthermore, I just like it there, I can’t really describe it.

I don’t want to go to Croatia anymore, I’m fed up with the Balkans.

I just wanted to get this off my chest, for many people something like this is probably completely unthinkable but I’m not getting any younger either.

  • LevHerceg@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    I completely understand you and I feel with you wanting to let it off your chest.

    I grew up on the great plains of Hungary. I didn’t realize it until lately that the climate and light-conditions I grew up in is rare Westwards and to the North from the country.

    There is no “grey season” or “typically overcast period” during the year. It usually goes down to minus 10, minus 15 degrees in January and it’s pitch dark by around four pm. But the previous 8 hours of daylight is actual sunshine. So, you get filled up with proper sunlight during the day.

    Hungarians living in the UK or the Netherlands admit sometimes that they get depressed of the phenomena of not seeing the sun for weeks, paired up with rain and wind. This is not something we are used to.

    I have been living in Northern Europe myself for more than 6 years now, I have done years of therapy and the healthier I am the more confidently I feel that this climate is making me unhappy. You somehow phrased it much better than me, that’s what I feel too.

    I don’t dare talking about it anymore because my old friends back in Hungary have never been here and have no real clue what’s it like. The country where I live is the home of introverts and mentioning how I feel they start thinking about some other extreme, some tropical climate and start preaching how they wouldn’t like that, I get no understanding.

    I don’t like any of the extremes, I am a typical temperate climate person, enjoying a balanced proportion of the elements and light-conditions. My boyfriend is from a very similar climate too originally so we understood each other. Other than him though, I can rarely talk about it to anyone.

    I understand you, and do the move if you feel suits you better. Life is short indeed and there is almost never a “perfect opportunity” for anything. You need to make the opportunities for yourself sometimes.