I’ve moved away from my home country for about a year now.
Whenever I can, I try to stay in touch with family back home via the phone or messaging apps, I’ve never been super attached to my family, but every family has their issues, nevertheless I try my best.
After finally getting my residency in my new country, I was planning on going back home, and I just feel like nobody in my home country cares, I would be writing excited messages about visiting home just to get very cold responses. It feels like everyone has moved on and forgot about me. I know my mom and relatives have never been expressive, but the least you could do is look forward to me visiting. Last week I got covid, although I wasn’t dying or anything, but when I told family members, all they did was reply “take care” and that was it. I know everyone has their own personal problems, but I just can’t help but feel kind of sad that nobody in my home country seems to care about me anymore.
Y would you expect anyone to wait for you, unless you both had made lasting commitments to each other. When a close friend moves away, there’s no expectation of waiting, putting life and plans on pause until they return. If the friendship is worth anything, you keep in touch on a regular basis and make plans for a meet-up, usually once a year (more if you’re lucky). Expectations of Family members you’re close to may be different, depending on status of the relationship. If one feels the distance you’re feeling is deliberate, then you should speak to the person ¯_(ツ)_/¯