Hey guys. I’m 25F. I was raised in the Middle East, Dubai/Bahrain and have had a fabulous life there. I moved to italy a couple of years ago and loved it way more than I liked the Middle East. It started to feel like home there. I’m a national of a horrible weak country so I don’t have the option to just pack my bags up and move.

My husband is American so I moved to America about 4 days ago but am finding it extremely hard to adjust. I’ve travelled here before but have not loved it as much so moving here permanently has been extremely challenging. I keep crying everyday no matter what I do, I’m struggling to adapt and fit in.

Any advice to overcome this?

  • Beef_Shashimi@alien.topBEnglish
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    1 year ago

    It’s normal. Relax. Take a breath. Close your eyes for a min and take deep breaths in your nose out your mouth.

    I am an American expat, spent 15 years as one. Married my wife (Pakistani who grew up and became a doctor in Malaysia). She too married me understanding that I would be moving her around. The very first move from Malaysia to Indonesia she didn’t want to go. After I pushed her into things she likes (gyms and outdoor activities) she made friends and ended up loving Indo. Then we moved to the USA. She really didn’t want to go. This time I pushed her into chasing people who run as she has become a very fast runner. Now she doesn’t want to leave as we pick up to go back to Malaysia.

    Think of the USA as the land with everything. It has beaches, deserts, mountains, snow, glaciers, and dunes, islands…. You want it, it has it. Want something tomorrow, order on Amazon. Everything is easy here

    As for calling home. My wife talks to her doctor brother in Australia about 4x a week. He works emergency and has two kids, but they find time to talk. She also talks to her mom every day who lives in Islamabad. They make time and it works, you will have to do the same. It’s about your effort and deciding what’s important.

    So give yourself time. It will be fine. If you truly want to communicate with family make time. If you truly want to enjoy the world, go find what you like to do in USA and do it. Sitting at home being depressed will only make you more depressed. It takes a step to get out there and do it. Looking at your old posts I see nothing about asking where you can find things to do that you love. Start chasing what you like, surround yourself with it.