Long lost alert. Background: I’m from South East Asia. I always liked the slow life. I prefer a life of simplicity. I am not lazy, I’ve worked long hours before.I just feel overwhelmed by the grief of losing My father, doing a lifeless job that takes 8 hours of my life and leaves me no time to spend with my mother(sons stay and take care of their parents in my culture) . My anxiety, depression and The lack of social life also effects me immensely(Mental health is horrible in my country). I barely have any close friends. The city I live in, Dhaka, is a megacity. The commute is hell, often taking three hours to reach home. There’s a void in me. I cry whenever I think I’ll have to get up at 6 am to go to work tomorrow. My colleagues are nice, and good people, I don’t blame them. The work culture in my country is to underpay and overwork. Job’s are so hard to come by that no one complains, and the bosses know this. The only reason why I haven’t taken my life is because there’s no one else to look after my mom. Why I finally decided to try and move out: A recent murder shook me. This guy was commuting on a bike. These assassins (I’m not kidding), targeted a known crime boss that was sitting in a car next to the biker. When they opened fire,the guy on the bike suffered a gsw to the head. He died after being in a coma for three days. He left behind a child and mom.

I need advice. I want to leave this shitty country( My mother Will temporarily stay with her sister in Canada for a while until I can secure immigration) and permanently move to another country. It may sound like immature thinking, but can you suggest me immigration destinations that ideally should have the following:

A) comparatively low population density, friendly to immigrants who adapt to local cultures. Basically, smaller cities or countries that are peaceful. B) Jobs that have short working hours. I don’t mind if short working hours means lesser pay, as long as I can afford living costs. C) definitely security, after the murder that happened,I just want to live somewhere safe. D) immigration policy Will preferably allow me to bring my mother here. If possible.

I know it’s a very long post and I may seem nieve. I just want to leave this maddening jungle of a city and this cesspit of a country.

  • FiendishHawk@alien.topB
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    10 months ago

    Your problem will be immigration laws. You can’t just move to your ideal country. You need to go somewhere you can get a visa for. Which in your case sounds like Canada.

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    10 months ago

    Not to be rude what do you bring to the table? Do you have in demand skills/degree? You may not be in the position to have lots of requirements regarding your new country, especially if you only have a Bangladeshi passport.

    • Ikhtiyar12@alien.topOPB
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      10 months ago

      I studied Journalism. I have experience in graphic design, photography(5 + years of experience )and post processing.I have a bilingual level fluency in English. I’m currently learning web development, but it’s going slow.

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      10 months ago

      Midwest and grew up with very sad childhood always getting picked on for being the only asian kid

      As an American, reading his post and replies, his grasp of the English language is better than 98% of Americans…FWIW.

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    10 months ago

    Life isn’t always easy in Western countries. That being said, in your situation, English speaking countries would be your best option. I’d recommend the US first and then Canada as a second choice. Moving to Canada seems a lot easier but you’d have to meet the requirements and go through the whole process.

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        10 months ago

        The US is huge with small, medium sized and large cities. There’s slower paced places. Western Europe has some hectic large cities and capitals, long commutes involved and many other issues…

        In his situation he just wants to get out and he needs to see which country is easy to migrate to when it comes to all the legal requirements and what not…

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    10 months ago

    Bro I’m so sorry but if you’re planning on coming to Canada you’re going to work twice as hard, you’re not going to have the slow life here because you’ll be here for the sole purpose of working to keep our economy afloat. You’ll be one among an army of foreign labourers flooding the country to keep our social welfare system from collapsing.

    • LyleLanleysMonorail@alien.topB
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      10 months ago

      I think OP is just relocating his mother there since she needs a care taker. If that’s the only place his mother can go to (family reunion), then I don’t think he has much choice besides Canada tbh. I would advise OP to go to Canada if that is the only place his mother can relocate to

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        10 months ago

        yeah, that’s the problem, i can’t leave my mom alone. She’ll move to Canada while I try for immigration for other countries. Might be forced to choose Canada if no other option is present.

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          10 months ago

          I’m sure Canada will be much much better than where you are currently at. Please do not let other Redditors discourage you. Other Redditors here are being extra whinging. No country is perfect

    • UniqueQuoi@alien.topB
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      10 months ago

      Plus housing, some immigrants are literally living in tents and winter is coming. Canada is only good for slumlords. Employers will also hire a Canadian over anyone with a work permit, they will fire you without a warning as employees especially immigrants aren’t really protected.

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      10 months ago

      This.

      Op do what you can to either move closer to work, or find work closer to you.

      The perks of living in a mega city is that you don’t have to go far for anything… what’s the point of living in the most dense and connected place if you work 3 hours away from your home and also have to drive there?

      • Ikhtiyar12@alien.topOPB
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        10 months ago

        There are complications to moving, until I can sort out paperwork for the house we live in we can’t move. That will take time because the legal process(succession )in my country is extremely slow. Then there’s the thing of bribing local officials to have your paperwork move from one department to another.

        Reason we have to stay: there are people who’ll try and “grab” the land if we leave. That means another host of legal trouble.

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      10 months ago

      Canada chews up immigrants and spits them out. The relatively low wages to the CoL, means a lot of them spend a few years burning through what money they have, only to burn out and go back home. Rinse & Repeat, Canada will continue the immigrant churn - crushing the hopes of migrants and suppressing wages for the locals. The only ones who benefit is big business & rental owners.

      • ClownyClownWorld@alien.topB
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        10 months ago

        Can confirm. My brother lives there and the OT is insane. Rent is unaffordable for most. He has a great paying job and they still can’t afford it on a single income. Now his wife has to go back to work just so they can afford childcare.

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        10 months ago

        It doesn’t. I’m an immigrant in Canada. I live in one of the most expensive neighborhoods in Toronto. I know others like me.

        This is not everyone’s story.

    • Ikhtiyar12@alien.topOPB
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      10 months ago

      My major was journalism, I’m currently employed as a journalist. I have additional skills in photography, graphics Design, video editing and web development (learning).

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    10 months ago

    Singapore, New Zealand, Australia and Ireland (in big cities) is fine. Malaysia is also not a bad choice if you’re going in as a skilled migrant despite being Bangladeshi.

    I would also say NL but given recent it’s recent political situation, it might not be the best solution. But migrating to EU in general isn’t easy (despite seemingly otherwise) because you should ideally be very experienced in your field or that your field is in high demand in each country (e.g. Healthcare sector for Germany, IT for Netherlands, Analyst/Accountant/Auditors for Luxembourg and Switzerland). Additionally, it helps alot of you learn atleast 1 EU language to the country you’re working in.

    I’m SEA myself and I left because of the ongoing civil war so I understand your situation. But I taught myself to be atleast business level in 3 EU language before taking the risk and settling down. It also helped that my industry is quite highly sought after so that also helped my position a little.

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    10 months ago

    Moving to a Western country may not be as promising as it seems though.😜Its easy to be lured in by the promise of a better quality of life and increased opportunities. However, it’s crucial to take a step back and acknowledge that these factors are subjective and vary from person to person. What may be considered a better quality of life for one individual may not be the same for another. You also need to work for it.

    Additionally, it’s important to keep in mind that no matter where you go, challenges are inevitable. Whether it’s adjusting to a new culture, finding employment, or establishing a social circle, relocating comes with its own set of obstacles and still facing/dealing those challenges with your family.

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    10 months ago

    Can you pull your own weight in any foreign country you choose as of day one? Times are rough pretty well anywhere you may look .

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      10 months ago

      Canada is literally giving visas to Africans and Indians in one day, what are you talking about 😂. Or do you mean express entry?

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    I think Canada is the best place for someone like yourself. There are literally hundreds of thousands (maybe more than a million actually) of young South Asian immigrants like yourself there in the same situation. Canada overall is a welcoming place for immigrants and a nice place to live. Downsides: it’s very expensive and the weather is horrible, which can quickly make you miss home.

    My second choice would be the US for the same reasons listed above, it’s just much bigger than Canada and may give you the same overwhelming feeling you get in Bangladesh at times. Downsides: US bureaucracy and immigration can also be a nightmare to handle, which is why I put it below Canada.

    Another random suggestion but just because I have experience living there is Taiwan - which is an amazing, safe, peaceful, and welcoming country. It’s also very affordable relative to somewhere like Canada or the US. I have only positives to say about my time living there and I knew many Indian, Pakistani, and Bangladeshis who lived there. The government is desperate for young, qualified workers who can speak English. Downsides: working hours are long, pay is much lower than Western countries, and not many locals can speak English.

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    10 months ago

    Get into IT or coding and shit and get job in USA that pays big money then move back a king after some years

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    10 months ago

    Try going to Dubai/Mid-east. Working hours are bad but you are paid well and would have a lot many Bangladeshis. You are depressed in Bangladesh and you seek Canada, in an alien culture, that can be insular. Your social life would not change for the better

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    10 months ago

    If your not mentally well Canada aint the place to go. Workers rights are non existant.

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        10 months ago

        Germany? Its near impossible to get fired or let go after your probation time. Leagues ahead of Canada. Plus they actually consider burn out and mental health part of sickness so you can take paid time off if your not well mentally.