Long lost alert. Background: I’m from South East Asia. I always liked the slow life. I prefer a life of simplicity. I am not lazy, I’ve worked long hours before.I just feel overwhelmed by the grief of losing My father, doing a lifeless job that takes 8 hours of my life and leaves me no time to spend with my mother(sons stay and take care of their parents in my culture) . My anxiety, depression and The lack of social life also effects me immensely(Mental health is horrible in my country). I barely have any close friends. The city I live in, Dhaka, is a megacity. The commute is hell, often taking three hours to reach home. There’s a void in me. I cry whenever I think I’ll have to get up at 6 am to go to work tomorrow. My colleagues are nice, and good people, I don’t blame them. The work culture in my country is to underpay and overwork. Job’s are so hard to come by that no one complains, and the bosses know this. The only reason why I haven’t taken my life is because there’s no one else to look after my mom. Why I finally decided to try and move out: A recent murder shook me. This guy was commuting on a bike. These assassins (I’m not kidding), targeted a known crime boss that was sitting in a car next to the biker. When they opened fire,the guy on the bike suffered a gsw to the head. He died after being in a coma for three days. He left behind a child and mom.
I need advice. I want to leave this shitty country( My mother Will temporarily stay with her sister in Canada for a while until I can secure immigration) and permanently move to another country. It may sound like immature thinking, but can you suggest me immigration destinations that ideally should have the following:
A) comparatively low population density, friendly to immigrants who adapt to local cultures. Basically, smaller cities or countries that are peaceful. B) Jobs that have short working hours. I don’t mind if short working hours means lesser pay, as long as I can afford living costs. C) definitely security, after the murder that happened,I just want to live somewhere safe. D) immigration policy Will preferably allow me to bring my mother here. If possible.
I know it’s a very long post and I may seem nieve. I just want to leave this maddening jungle of a city and this cesspit of a country.
Bro I’m so sorry but if you’re planning on coming to Canada you’re going to work twice as hard, you’re not going to have the slow life here because you’ll be here for the sole purpose of working to keep our economy afloat. You’ll be one among an army of foreign labourers flooding the country to keep our social welfare system from collapsing.
Plus housing, some immigrants are literally living in tents and winter is coming. Canada is only good for slumlords. Employers will also hire a Canadian over anyone with a work permit, they will fire you without a warning as employees especially immigrants aren’t really protected.
This.
Op do what you can to either move closer to work, or find work closer to you.
The perks of living in a mega city is that you don’t have to go far for anything… what’s the point of living in the most dense and connected place if you work 3 hours away from your home and also have to drive there?
There are complications to moving, until I can sort out paperwork for the house we live in we can’t move. That will take time because the legal process(succession )in my country is extremely slow. Then there’s the thing of bribing local officials to have your paperwork move from one department to another.
Reason we have to stay: there are people who’ll try and “grab” the land if we leave. That means another host of legal trouble.
Canada chews up immigrants and spits them out. The relatively low wages to the CoL, means a lot of them spend a few years burning through what money they have, only to burn out and go back home. Rinse & Repeat, Canada will continue the immigrant churn - crushing the hopes of migrants and suppressing wages for the locals. The only ones who benefit is big business & rental owners.
Can confirm. My brother lives there and the OT is insane. Rent is unaffordable for most. He has a great paying job and they still can’t afford it on a single income. Now his wife has to go back to work just so they can afford childcare.
Isn’t childcare free?
It doesn’t. I’m an immigrant in Canada. I live in one of the most expensive neighborhoods in Toronto. I know others like me.
This is not everyone’s story.
OP knows this!!! That is why s/he wants to leave!!! You’re doing a great job at depressing an already depressed person.
I think OP is just relocating his mother there since she needs a care taker. If that’s the only place his mother can go to (family reunion), then I don’t think he has much choice besides Canada tbh. I would advise OP to go to Canada if that is the only place his mother can relocate to
yeah, that’s the problem, i can’t leave my mom alone. She’ll move to Canada while I try for immigration for other countries. Might be forced to choose Canada if no other option is present.
I’m sure Canada will be much much better than where you are currently at. Please do not let other Redditors discourage you. Other Redditors here are being extra whinging. No country is perfect