Why I think he is emotionally abusive:

  1. He doesn’t translate everything as he should and only translates in a manner that suits his situation and needs.

  2. Omits essential information all the time.

  3. Right before the wedding he decides to break up because she confided in her parents. But it’s okay when he does the same and turns everyone against her. Who runs to their mommy after there’s been a fight with a partner and talks shit about them to their entire family?

4.He always has to have the upper hand: Threatens to leave Kimberly or asks her to leave in every fight, Whenever he is asked to make a compromise - “Am I your servant?” “I’m not your servant” wth does that even mean?

  1. In effect he has entirely isolated her from his family and is trying to isolate her from her own family too.

  2. Straight up lied about the family situation and “wifely duties”.

  3. No safe space for Kimberly to go to, no one to confide in

Controlling someone in that manner and stripping away their identity bit by bit is absolutely not okay. I say this not because Kimberly is expected to make compromises, but because she is being expected to keep quiet about things that bother her and change the way she thinks. The situation is classic 101 guide in how to break someone’s spirit and make them complacent.

    • CivilFollowing7190@alien.topBEnglish
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      1 year ago

      TJ ommitted information about what her role was going to be…ommitting information is equal to lying. What did he think was going happen when she was informed she was going to be a slave to his family. She did the right thing to get her ass out of there. Cow dung and cow piss would be the last straw for me to hightail it outta there. It’s all too much. Such a festive wedding, then found out the horrible tasks she was expected to do for years…it was just too much for western raised gal.

      • poshdog4444@alien.topBEnglish
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        1 year ago

        Absolutely she was completely full and with a lavish wedding for three days and three nights. Do you feel like a princess and then become a house leave for the rest your life who needs that maybe that’s why the brothers not married I can’t believe that any woman would be tricked into the bullshit and not run away

        • CivilFollowing7190@alien.topBEnglish
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          1 year ago

          Yes, I agree. What a horrible future…expecting to wait on the family for years…nope, nope, nope. Maybe an Indian woman who knows the culture might…but not for a western raised gal. Oh, hell, no.

      • myoriginalislocked@alien.topBEnglish
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        1 year ago

        That’s why the weddings are like this for centuries! I wish people would see that.

        They do all these glitz n glamour wow so beautiful, look all the clothes, the henna, its so fun so many celebrations. And then the real story comes out. Your trapped in that life forever cooking, cleaning, being a slave, being lied to, husband can either be nice or he can be a living hell. Pray that you have a nice one.

        That’s why its easy for them to get a western girl than say, a indian girl who wants nothing of that life cuz they see the mom going through it. Westerns just think oooh wow its like a queen for my wedding!!!