Does anyone else have the experience of being in a relationship where you’re from different countries but you met and started a life in a third? And then you tried to live in either of your home countries but your relationship somehow works better when you’re in a third country?

Or am I alone in this? It’s a very strange existence.

  • egriff78@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    It’s tough! Especially when children and elderly parents are involved but it would be as well in either of our home countries. We met in my husband’s home country (Italy), briefly moved to the US (mine) and are now in NL with two kids. Mostly it works but I sometimes long for closer proximity to family.

    I think we both feel equally part of this society and left out of it, so that works 😅😅 Our kids both fit in because they are bilingual (approaching trilingual) so that’s good.

      • Esme_Esyou@alien.topBEnglish
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        10 months ago

        The language development goes as good as the parents are willing to invest. You have to make the decision to actively engage your children in your respective languages and stick to it (with modern technology and media, there’s no excuse anymore). No slacking off just because it’s easier to stick to the local language. The kids may ‘struggle’ a little initially, but that’s just an adjustment period, and they’ll get over it. Kids are far more resilient than we like to admit, it’s the adults who have the biggest challenge sticking to language development.