Does anyone else have the experience of being in a relationship where you’re from different countries but you met and started a life in a third? And then you tried to live in either of your home countries but your relationship somehow works better when you’re in a third country?
Or am I alone in this? It’s a very strange existence.
I’m in a binational couple and we met and currently live in a 3rd country. We are relocating to another 3rd country next year and while we considered moving to either one of our home countries, we decided against it. A 3rd country is a neutral territory where we are both foreigners/immigrants/expats and I think that makes many things easier. In one of our home countries, one of us would be more dependent on the other (at least in the beginning) and that person would be the « foreigner « . I’m sure it’s possible to make it work but it’ll take some time and extra work. Wishing you the best of luck!
Must be a power balance when one is the foreigner and one is the local , local knowledge can work to the locals advantage more
I think it genuinely depends on the couple. If a partner doesn’t make one feel excluded, then there’s no reason to feel the need to be in neutral territory. Also, it’s great to have a partner who knows the ropes in their home country already, making the family transition easier. That’s my take on it, obviously people will have varying opinions.