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Cake day: 2023年6月18日

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  • You say that you’ve forgiven her, and that’s fine, but it still sounds like you don’t trust her in the slightest. Relationships are built on a foundation of trust and frankly I don’t think you see how severe of an issue your distrust is at its core. You cannot have a functional and true relationship with a human being without trust.

    There are an infinite number of possibilities for why this power strip you’re harping on was there, yet you immediately go straight to cheating. Humans are fallible and memory is fickle and unreliable.

    You’re here because you want someone to tell you she’s cheating. You’ve made three separate posts and nobody has given you the answer you so desperately want to hear. This behavior is not venting, this is looking for an excuse.


  • I’m just going to copy my response from your other thread since this is the exact same post, just with some cleaning for legibility.

    It sounds like you’re deeply suspicious(and possibly under the influence if I’m honest) and your partner and you have deeper issues at play. Being cheated on has a tendency to do that, although it sounds like she’s put forth the effort to show she’s dedicated.

    If you have trust and communication issues you need to either pursue counseling, ideally individually and together, or openly and candidly determine if the relationship is still something that works for the both of you. Noone on the internet is going to be able to accurately speculate or give you the answers you seek.

    On a personal note, it sounds like you’re having a tough time with life in general at the moment and I wish you the best. Take care of yourself first and don’t let your emotions cloud your judgement.

    Since you keep pressing this issue, I’m just going to be up front and honest with you. This doesn’t sound like she’s cheating in any way, but the reality is that if you keep looking for an excuse to say she is for the rest of your life then you’re always going to find one.

    It might be time to take a hard look in the mirror to determine if her past transgression are something that you’re capable of moving past because at the end of the day that’s what this is truly about. I’ve been cheated on in a similar fashion and yes it will always hurt on some level, but if you can’t grow, forgive, and move past it together then you have no hope for a future anyway and your distrust will permeate the entire relationship.

    -Signed someone who is still happily in a relationship with someone 14 years later.


  • It sounds like you’re deeply suspicious(and possibly under the influence if I’m honest) and your partner and you have deeper issues at play. Being cheated on has a tendency to do that, although it sounds like she’s put forth the effort to show she’s dedicated.

    If you have trust and communication issues you need to either pursue counseling, ideally individually and together, or openly and candidly determine if the relationship is still something that works for the both of you. Noone on the internet is going to be able to accurately speculate or give you the answers you seek.

    On a personal note, it sounds like you’re having a tough time with life in general at the moment and I wish you the best. Take care of yourself first and don’t let your emotions cloud your judgement.




  • I agree, it shouldn’t feel like that. As someone who is bi and queer though, on top of all the normal trials and tribulations of dating there’s also a long list of people who don’t think I have the right to exist. I’d rather find out they’re a hate filled asshole as soon as possible so I can move on with my life. At this stage I won’t meet someone face to face unless we’ve chatted extensively online already. Even though I’m dooming hard I do still hope you find someone 😊




  • I’ve moved across country twice so far and this is pretty spot on. The very beginning and very end of the trip is the only point that’s going to be potentially difficult, otherwise you should always be traveling on a major highway if possible.

    The only thing I would add is to plan ahead and make sure you know exactly where you’re going to stop and rest for the night with that length of drive. You’re going to want to plan to get to your final destination in early evening when there is a good buffer of sunlight still around or in the early mid-morning so that you can get as early a start as possible on unpacking. Also make sure you have a lock for the back of the moving truck if you’re stopping anywhere overnight and park the truck somewhere you can see it from your hotel window.