I don’t hate her I just feel bad. I see my friends in her when it comes to dating/marrying/having kids with someone who they WISH their partner was and not the reality of who their partner is. It’s easy for me to judge and be like damn if you got to know them as a person and had self respect beforehand it wouldn’t even have gotten that far to where you’re now unhappily married with kids. BUT kids don’t come with a return policy and they’re already here. And relationships are complicated and people are not flawless pawns who always make the right move. Which is a good reason why I actually watch the show. Their flaws and inability to give up on a relationship they’ve put so much into makes them relatable humans because it does happen a lot. In light of news she’s talked about on her Instagram I wish a healing road for her for where the first time in her life she can focus on herself, figuring out who that is, and how to pick up the pieces and move on because I can’t imagine she’s staying with him still, but I don’t know. I can’t imagine I’d be a good partner now if I had not spent time single figuring myself out and how I cope before bringing someone else and future kids into it, but everyone’s different and it’s never too late to give yourself a chance.
I do feel bad for her because I bet it can be isolating but you have to give yourself baby steps to getting better and I feel that if she went and connected with his family it would help her learn the language and be on better terms with them. I think she was expecting that her and TJ were living in an apartment above his parents but the way it’s seen there is that they might as well be just in an upstairs room of the same home. I wouldn’t be able to handle that proximity and I think TJ should have done better explaining that among many other things