I like my fictional men traumatized, hot, shitty at communication, and rich. Couldn’t deal with a dude like that in real life.

I like my real life husband goofy, asks for help, and holds down a job. I’d like him to be rich but meh.

Guy Gavriel Kay’s books; I love fantasy but I’m old and I don’t care about spunky young adults discovering themselves and the thing of power from prophecy. His books are beautifully written about people who go on adventures and get caught up in things and then go home.